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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!
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"Your body innately knows how to do fertility—it’s just waiting for you to stop micromanaging."
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"You can’t have and want at the same time."
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here to shake things up and throw a little radical honesty your way.
Ever feel like you’re trapped in the never-ending cycle of “trying” to get pregnant? Like your whole existence has somehow become wrapped up in charting, Googling, and second-guessing every decision? Well, buckle up, because we’re about to dive into why that’s a huge part of the problem.
This episode is all about the identity you’ve unknowingly taken on—the one who is always trying. And guess what? That identity might just be keeping you stuck. We’re talking about why your subconscious clings to this label, how hope (yes, even hope) can sometimes keep you in limbo, and why shifting from wanting to having is the secret sauce you didn’t know you needed.
I also get into the real reason your body might not be “playing along” with your fertility goals (spoiler: it’s not because it’s broken). It’s because stress and control are energy vampires, and your body needs to feel safe before it gives the green light to baby-making.
So if you’re ready to ditch the death grip on your journey, trust your body, and step into the energy of having, this episode is your permission slip to finally let go. Let’s do this!
01:30 – The inspiration for this episode: a perfectly timed post about letting go
02:53 – Why clinging to the “trying” identity could be keeping you in an endless loop
04:48 – The sneaky way your subconscious labels shape your reality (and how to shift it)
06:42 – You can’t have and want at the same time—how to embody trust instead
07:48 – Why white-knuckling your way through this journey is an energy drain
08:44 – The magic in the mundane: shifting from lack to joy in everyday life
09:37 – Hope isn’t the problem…until it is. When hope keeps you stuck instead of moving forward
11:33 – The fear that keeps you gripping control: If I let go, am I giving up? (Spoiler: nope)
12:48 – How your body actually thrives when you stop stressing over every little detail
14:15 – Why quick fixes don’t work & what to focus on instead
15:14 – A sneak peek at next week’s episode: a game-changing fertility breakthrough session!
"Hope is supposed to be a bridge, not a place where you set up camp and live forever."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilitySuccessTrustingBodyBreakingFreeInfertilityStruggle
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 14, 2025
Friday Mar 14, 2025
"The shift from chasing to trusting is the real work. It’s easy to stay in a loop of doing more research, more protocols, more control. But remember, the real magic is when you stop overcompensating and start trusting yourself."
"If you deep down don’t believe you deserve to become a mother, you’ll subconsciously create obstacles to prevent it."
Truth # 4: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-z2s2n-18073a4
Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today we’re diving into a mind-bending, slightly uncomfortable (but wildly important) topic—FEAR OF SUCCESS. Yep, you read that right. Not fear of failure. Fear of actually getting what you want.
Sounds crazy, right? I mean, isn’t the whole point of this journey to become pregnant? But let’s be real—your brain has been so busy obsessing over the struggle, the next supplement, the next protocol, the next thing—that the idea of finally crossing the finish line is, well… TERRIFYING. Because what happens when you’re no longer the one “trying”? What happens when you do get pregnant?
Your subconscious is sneaky like that. It convinces you that staying in the hamster wheel of research and control is saferthan stepping into the unknown of success. Because success means transformation. It means surrender. And let’s be honest—Type-A, overachieving, Google-addicted Mabel is not a fan of surrender.
In this episode, Monique is rolling her eyes at Mabel’s overthinking, Monica is here to gently guide the way, and YOU are going to uncover whether fear of success is secretly sabotaging your journey. You’ll also get three game-changing questions to sit with (preferably under a tree, because let’s add some nature to the healing process, shall we?).
So, if you’ve been stuck in doing instead of trusting, if pregnancy feels just as scary as infertility, or if your brain has ever whispered “What if I mess this up?”—this episode is your wake-up call. Let’s break the cycle and step into the version of you who is ready to receive.
"For so long, you have been the woman who’s trying. That’s who you are. That’s how you relate to yourself, your partner, your doctors. The idea of not being her anymore? That can feel like a loss—even though it’s what you want more than anything."
00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility! Let’s talk about the sneaky fear of success.
01:33 – Why getting pregnant might feel scarier than failing (subconscious sabotage 101)
02:56 – “What if I don’t deserve this?” How unworthiness keeps you stuck
04:26 – The real reason you can’t stop doing (and why sitting under a tree might help)
06:23 – Mabel’s lesson on repeating the same old patterns in fertility
07:19 – The 3 questions you need to ask yourself today
08:34 – If you stop chasing and start trusting… who even are you?
10:00 – The science behind stress in pregnancy (aka, get that cortisol down NOW)
11:29 – Letting go of the identity of the “woman who’s trying”
12:56 – How to shift into the version of you that’s ready to receive
"The magic is in the mundane. When you feel that anxiety bubbling up, the real work is sitting in the uncomfortableness of not doing."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-chasing-to-fertile-trusting-the-real-mindset-shift-for-fertility-success
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 07, 2025
Friday Mar 07, 2025
"If you're still feeling stuck, if you're still feeling there's something more, it's because you're not going inward enough."
"The answer is within, the answer is always within."
Hello, beautiful—the voice of Monica is here to shake up your fertility mindset once again. If you’re still on the never-ending hamster wheel of “doing all the things” but still feel like you’re getting nowhere, buckle up because today’s episode is your reality check. We’re talking about something that might make your Type A tendencies twitch—slowing down. Yep, the thing that feels impossible but is actually the secret sauce to unlocking your fertility and overall well-being.
Rebecca Rankin is back, and we’re diving deep into why ignoring your body’s signals, overriding your natural rhythms, and stuffing your schedule with all the “fertility must-dos” is actually working against you. We’re talking about real radical honesty—the kind that makes you question your midnight Googling sessions and your obsession with finding the next best supplement. Spoiler alert: the answer isn’t out there. It’s in you. Always has been.
We also get into the not-so-sexy but oh-so-important truth about consistency, how your hormones affect EVERYTHING (yes, even that sudden urge to question your entire existence while doing the dishes), and why menopause might actually be your power era instead of something to dread. Plus, we tackle the biggest lie in the fertility world: the idea that once you “fix” your health, life will be smooth sailing forever. Newsflash—it’s a lifelong journey, but one you actually have control over.
So, if you’re ready to ditch the frantic energy and actually start aligning with your body’s wisdom, this episode is for you. Let’s go.
"Slowing down enough to listen to yourself is the most radical act of self-care you can do."
00:37 – The power of radical responsibility and self-trust in fertility
01:17 – Why the inner work feels “slow” but is actually the fastest way to transformation
02:32 – The hard truth about healing: Why modalities don’t work if you avoid the real work
03:53 – How past traumas and subconscious programming affect your nervous system
04:51 – The lost art of slowing down: Why we ignore our intuition
06:19 – Practitioners as mirrors, not saviors—how to know when to trust yourself
07:48 – Are you living on autopilot? Why you need to take back control
09:14 – The silent work your body does for you—hormones, gut health & energy
10:36 – Consistency over perfection: The secret to long-term healing
11:34 – The domino effect of small daily changes on your health & mindset
13:30 – How society has conditioned women to ignore their own needs
16:21 – The rising infertility crisis: What sperm health tells us about modern health
17:19 – Why birth control masks issues instead of fixing them
19:42 – Menopause: The era of not giving a f*** and stepping into your power
21:30 – The body’s signals don’t lie: How to listen and respond to your own needs
22:56 – Can you sit with yourself? Why true transformation happens in stillness
23:50 – The radical idea of just being with yourself—no distractions, no numbing
24:47 – Final thoughts: The one small action you can take today to shift your energy
"You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to show up for yourself every single day."
Connect with Rebecca Rankin:
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-radical-honesty-can-transform-your-mindset-fertility-journey-with-rebecca-rankin-part-2
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Feb 28, 2025
Friday Feb 28, 2025
"We are the creators, and when we’re in complete flow with ourselves, the power is undeniable."
"We’re not meant to be perpetually productive. Our power is in the ebb and flow."
Hello, beautiful.! Monica here, back in your ears, and today, we’re talking about something that might just shake up everything you’ve been taught about success, productivity, and even your own body. Buckle up.
Here’s the thing—women have been lied to. For centuries. We’ve been told to push harder, do more, and operate like mini-men in a world that rewards burnout. But what if the key to feeling your best, being your most creative, and even boosting fertility isn’t in doing more, but in doing differently?
Today, I’m joined by the incredible Rebecca Rankin, who’s here to drop truth bombs about cyclical living—aka, why your hormones are actually your superpower (if you stop fighting them). We’re talking about why you feel like an unstoppable queen one week and a drained zombie the next, why ignoring these shifts wrecks your health, and how simple awareness can change the game.
Spoiler alert: If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing "everything right" but still not seeing results, this episode is your wake-up call. Get ready to stop playing chauffeur to everyone else’s needs and start reclaiming your rhythm, your energy, and your damn life.
"Radical responsibility means calling out the ways we sabotage ourselves—yes, even while washing the dishes."
00:37 – Understanding how your body is actually working FOR you, not against you
00:51 – Quick disclaimer: I don’t diagnose, prescribe, or hand you a magic fertility pill
01:18 – Guided meditation: A quick practice to center yourself in the present moment
06:34 – Rebecca’s journey: From architecture to yoga to women’s wellness
09:27 – The wake-up call moment: When you realize your body has been screaming for attention
12:21 – How women are taught to ignore their own cycles & why that’s a huge mistake
16:40 – The truth about hustle culture: Why women need a different approach
18:07 – Why men and women’s energy cycles are fundamentally different
19:31 – The fertility trap: When "doing all the things" is actually making it worse
22:53 – Understanding your menstrual cycle as a guide for energy, productivity & intuition
24:42 – Why "just think happy thoughts" isn’t enough (and what actually works)
28:38 – The most powerful first step: Start tracking your cycle & mood patterns
29:35 – Monica’s realization: All the spiritual work in the world won’t fix subconscious programming
30:49 – Final thoughts: Unpacking, unlearning, and stepping into your power
"Your hormones are your mystical superpower—if you stop trying to override them."
Connect with Rebecca Rankin:
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/ditch-the-hustle-why-women-thrive-when-they-honor-their-natural-rhythms-with-rebecca-rankin-part-1
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Feb 21, 2025
Friday Feb 21, 2025
"You can have 500 suitcases lined up full of crap that isn’t yours or just one or two you don’t even realize you’re carrying."
Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
READ Chapter 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-4-mabel-s-buried-emotional-baggage-the-silent-stories-that-shape-our-lives
"Maybe your parents just didn’t want to deal with your emotions because they were raised by the silent generations and emotions weren’t even a thing."
Hello, Beautiful—Monica here, back again with a hard-hitting, no-nonsense dive into your emotional baggage. (Yes, we’re going there today.)
We’re talking about those neatly packed, possibly designer-labeled suitcases of emotions you’ve been dragging around for decades—some that aren’t even yours. Fun, right? Maybe you’ve done all the ‘right’ things—cleaned up your diet, taken the right supplements, maybe even dabbled in energy work—but somehow, you’re still stuck. Here’s a not-so-fun fact: You can’t out-salad your subconscious beliefs.
If your nervous system is still holding onto past emotional wounds, it doesn’t matter how many green juices you chug or how ‘clean’ your diet is—your body is still living in an old story. So today, we’re unpacking those dusty, forgotten emotional wounds that are silently running the show.
We’ll also talk about the oh-so-familiar conditioning many of us got growing up. You know, the "big girls don’t cry,""stop being so sensitive," and "it’s not that big of a deal" mantras that taught us to shove our emotions down like last season’s trends. But here’s the thing—what you suppress doesn’t disappear; it festers, manifests in sneaky ways (hello, chronic gut issues and hormonal chaos), and keeps you stuck in a loop.
And because I love to make things practical, I’m giving you a few journal prompts to help you dig deep, a breakdown of how your beliefs shape your reality, and the inside scoop on whole-brain states (aka how to trick your brain into rewiring old beliefs).
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why you’re still stuck despite doing all the things, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it.
"I wasn’t even really allowed to express my emotions—Wendy the Whiner wasn’t invited, and big girls don’t cry."
03:01 – The truth about buried emotional baggage
04:57 – How subconscious beliefs control your fertility
06:20 – Emotional suppression: the silent fertility killer
08:07 – The physical symptoms of unresolved emotions
10:00 – That moment when you realize your dad’s BS is why you can’t tolerate nightshades
12:46 – How childhood conditioning still affects you today
14:33 – The journal prompts that will change your life
19:14 – What did you need as a child that you never got?
21:36 – The story you’re telling yourself about your body
23:55 – Why functional medicine alone isn’t the whole answer
26:13 – Whole-brain state: the cheat code to subconscious rewiring
30:56 – What happens when the fight is over? (Spoiler: identity crisis)
32:41 – Your challenge for the week—time to release what’s holding you back
"You can’t heal what you’re unwilling to look at."
I’ve got three journal prompts to get you started. Then, don’t forget to access the D.R.E.A.M.S. course for more in-depth support for each area:
1️⃣ "What did I need as a child that I never got?"
What emotions did I have to suppress?
How did I learn to cope?
How is this showing up in my life now?
📌 [Refer to: Energetics—Dealing with the Past (Trauma)]
2️⃣ "If I let myself be really, truly angry, what would I say?"
No editing. No guilt. Just raw, unfiltered emotion.
Who am I angry at? Myself? Someone else? Life?
What have I been swallowing down for years?
📌 [Refer to: Energetics—How to Release Anger and Fear]
3️⃣ "What’s the story I’ve been telling myself about my body, my worth, and my ability to become a mom?"
Where did this story start?
Whose voice does it sound like?
What happens if I let that story go?
📌 [Refer to: Mindset—The Importance of Thinking & Speaking in a More Positive Way]
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Feb 14, 2025
Friday Feb 14, 2025
The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVF
"If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything."
"Busyness isn’t always about progress. Sometimes it’s just a fancy disguise for avoidance."
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You’re the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let’s be real for a second—how’s that working out for you?
Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she’ll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way?
Today, we’re diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don’t worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don’t want to hear but absolutely need to).
And because I love making things super practical, I’m giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That’s the point.
So grab your tea (or let’s be real, your third cup of coffee), and let’s get into it.
"If you don’t give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you."
00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast
00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey
00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant
00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses
01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller?
01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness
07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let’s talk about it
07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we’ve all been there)
08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything?
10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling
11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility
12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing
14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body
17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let’s get real)
19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action
21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you’ve been living
23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities
25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness
26:41 - Monique’s take: Stuffing down emotions isn’t a long-term strategy
27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions
28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice)
29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week’s deep dive into emotional baggage
"Repressed feelings don’t stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly."
Full Transcript on the Blog:
https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Feb 07, 2025
Friday Feb 07, 2025
"The frequency of actually guiding a soul towards their own autonomy is the highest level mastery position you could have in this life as a female."
"You’re not here to give your man a baby or have a Pinterest-perfect pumpkin patch photoshoot with your child. You’re here to guide a soul. That’s the assignment."
Hello, beautiful - Monica here and today, we’re diving DEEP into a conversation that might shake up everything you thought you knew about motherhood, fertility, and, well… life itself.
We’re talking about the real reason so many women are burnt out, overwhelmed, and struggling—not just with fertility, but with life balance, motherhood, and relationships. You know that sneaky little voice that says, “You should be doing more”? Yeah, it’s been lying to you.
We’re breaking down the illusion of control and how it keeps you trapped in an exhausting cycle of overwork, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. We’re exposing the dark side of feminism—the part that told us we could (and should) do it all but forgot to mention that “doing it all” comes with a side of adrenal burnout, hormone chaos, and deep dissatisfaction. And let’s talk about generational baggage, because, spoiler alert: If you don’t heal it, your kids WILL carry it.
So grab your tea (or wine, no judgment), because this episode is a no-BS, high-energy call to action to start living in a way that actually supports your body, mind, and soul. Let’s break the cycle and build something better—for us, for our children, and for the generations after that.
"Women are out here taking care of other people’s kids as teachers and nannies, nurturing other families as nurses, and completely neglecting their own. Tell me how that makes sense."
00:00 – Hello beautiful & welcome to Finding Fertility
00:10 – The 6 essential steps to creating the family of your dreams
00:37 – Why radical responsibility is the key to fertility success
00:51 – Important disclaimer before we dive in
01:21 – Why you NEED to get your emotional sh*t together before becoming a mom
03:10 – How not unpacking your trauma keeps you stuck in struggle mode
03:40 – The REAL assignment of motherhood (hint: it’s not what society told you)
04:08 – The self-sacrificing motherhood trap & why you must escape it
05:06 – The ‘oxygen mask’ analogy & why saving yourself is saving your family
07:01 – The feminist lie that left women exhausted & infertile
09:24 – What society gets wrong about the value of feminine energy
12:14 – Girlboss culture: Empowerment or just a different kind of slavery?
17:27 – Your kids will mirror your wounds—whether you heal them or not
19:24 – The life events that finally wake women up to their patterns
23:33 – How your kids actually learn from you (hint: it’s not what you say)
27:27 – The sneaky ways women self-sabotage their fertility & happiness
30:42 – Why some people never get results from self-development work
32:07 – You have to carry your own water: No one else can do the work for you
"We’re out here ‘girlbossing’ ourselves into hormone hell, and then wondering why we’re exhausted, sick, and disconnected from our kids. Newsflash: You can’t have it all without sacrificing something."
Connect with Talie Miller:
https://www.instagram.com/taliemiller
https://substack.com/@taliemiller
Listen to more great episodes about Spirit Babies & Soul Contracts:
Finding Fertility:
Can Spirit Babies Influence Your "Infertility" Journey to Motherhood with Abigail White Part One: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-swpjm-15d3ad3
Unlocking the Mysteries of Spirit Babies: A Soulful Journey to Parenthood with Abigail White Part Two: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-sxt3x-15d3ada
Choices Podcast:
Beyond Earthly Choices: Understanding Our Spiritual Journey & Soul Contracts Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part One:
https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts-part-1/?token=3aa1307fa564fad67b84586fa3fa6f72
The Ripple Effect of Conscious Choices: Soul Contracts and Purpose with Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part 2: https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts/?token=9a3f3c1ab83d8e675e3c44220ac171fe
Breath of Life Soul Contract Series:
The Hardships of Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt One: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0E8xA0F_bg
Guilt and Fear in Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Two
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QacHjzTqfY
Did you Want to be a Mom: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Three https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaxRZt2NpaA
Why is Parenting so Special: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Four https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPqGdOIntJg
Let's Do This Together 💚
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Jan 31, 2025
Friday Jan 24, 2025
Friday Jan 24, 2025
Truth # 2: Overthinking, Worry & Fear: How Mabel Found Peace in Her Thoughts:
Topics Discussed
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
"Stop fighting time and start working with it."
Hello, beautiful—Monica here, your guide in uncovering what really matters on your fertility journey. In this episode, we dive into the chaotic storm that is overthinking—you know, that exhausting mental loop where you rehearse every worst-case scenario like you’re auditioning for an Oscar. Spoiler: your mind doesn't actually get a trophy for all that drama.
With the help of my unapologetically sassy alter-ego Monique (yes, she’s back and fiercer than ever) and my ever-panicked former self, Mabel, we unpack the evil twins of rumination and overworrying. Mabel’s spinning out over her age again, convinced the universe slapped an expiration date on her forehead. But don’t worry—Monique’s got her metaphorical megaphone and some hard truths to share.
This episode isn’t about magic fixes or fairy dust; it’s about showing up for yourself in those unglamorous, mundane moments. We’re talking about the simple, powerful shift of saying, “We don’t live here anymore” when your brain starts building castles out of what-ifs. And guess what? If you’re obsessing over the clock ticking, Monique has some spicy words for you—because your age isn’t the real villain here. It’s time to ditch the chaos, embrace clarity, and trust your body’s ability to work with you, not against you.
Grab your tea, your notebook, or just a cozy spot to listen—you don’t want to miss this one. And if you catch yourself spiraling into overthinking after this? Well, you’ll know exactly what to say: “Babe, we don’t live here anymore.”
"Overthinking doesn’t create control—it creates chaos."
Timestamps
00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast
00:10 - Introduction to the six essential steps for your fertility journey
00:37 - Radical responsibility: Trusting your body and creating transformation
01:19 - A grounding meditation to release overthinking
03:00 - Visualization: Letting the river carry away your thoughts
06:26 - Affirmation for calm energy and self-trust
07:39 - Why overthinking feels safe but creates chaos
08:08 - Mabel and Monique’s showdown: Overthinking at midnight
13:44 - The difference between rumination and overworrying
15:10 - Tools to interrupt rumination and over worrying
18:19 - Monica’s personal journey with overthinking and consistency
20:36 - The addiction to control and how it keeps you stuck
21:35 - Preview of next week’s episode: Slowing down and creating space for healing
"Slowing down and sitting with your feelings is where true healing begins."
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-overcome-overthinking-worry-fear-during-infertility-ivf-2
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🍍Friday Jan 17, 2025
Friday Jan 17, 2025
Hello Beautiful! Let’s talk about something we all love to hate—control. In this episode, I took you on a little meditation journey to ditch the chaos and open yourselves up to receiving all the good vibes. Spoiler alert: we don’t need to white-knuckle every step of this fertility thing!
The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond Truth # 1
Read The Illusion of Control over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Illusion%20of%20Control%20Infertility%20Failed%20IVF%20IUI%20Pregnancy%20Issues
Met three fabulous characters:
I spill the tea on how trusting, surrendering, and letting go can actually make you feel more empowered, not less. And we’re all about small, actionable steps here—no 300-point fertility checklists, thank you very much.
The Illusion of Control
Let’s call it what it is: CONTROL is a sneaky little minx that makes you feel productive but leaves you spinning your wheels. We channeled our inner Mabels (bless her Type A heart) and reminded her that micromanaging every little thing won’t speed things up.
Trust & Surrender
I know, I know—“trust” and “surrender” sound like buzzwords on a coffee mug. But seriously, letting go of the need to control everything doesn’t mean giving up—it means opening the door for better things to flow in. Baby steps, babe.
Self-Awareness is Sexy
Radical honesty, anyone? I challenged you to check yourself before you wreck yourself. What’s essential? What’s just busywork? Bonus points if you kick that checklist to the curb and lean into grace instead of grind.
Joy, Gratitude & Self-Care
Control blocks joy—it’s science (or at least Monica-science). Slow down, make time for what lights you up, and let your body and intuition do their thing. Pro tip: less Googling, more dancing around the kitchen.
Alright, here’s your homework (but make it fun):
Listen, queen: control isn’t the key to your fertility kingdom. Shifting from fear to trust? Now that’s where the magic happens.
Let go, tune in, and take it one step at a time. And if you’re ready to go deeper, I’ve got you covered with community sessions, one-on-one magic, and tools to help you finally ditch the chaos.
So, what’s your one small shift this week? I’m rooting for you—and so is Monique, with her sassy clap-back energy.
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/podcastIllusionofControlWhyLettingGoCouldTransformYourFertilityJourney
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
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