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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!
Episodes
4 days ago
4 days ago
Topics Discussed
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How time pressure reshapes fertility decision making
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The nervous system response behind urgency and fertility burnout
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IVF trauma and the fear of waiting too long
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Subconscious blocks around age timelines and regret
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The difference between relief based decisions and intuitive alignment
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How urgency contracts fascia nervous system and frequency
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Emotional healing through awareness rather than force
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This week we are not fixing anything. We are noticing something. The quiet way time pressure starts deciding for you. Not loudly. Not dramatically. Just subtly enough that urgency begins to feel responsible and stillness starts to feel reckless.
You can feel it in the body. The contraction. The narrowing. The sense that if you do not choose now you will miss your only window. Fertility burnout often does not come from doing too little. It comes from doing too much too fast because waiting feels dangerous. And sometimes what looks like decisiveness is actually relief. Relief from uncertainty. Relief from the discomfort of not knowing.
“Time pressure does not just affect timing. It affects discernment.”
There is a difference between intuition and urgency. Between a grounded next step and a subconscious block that whispers you are running out of time. If you have ever rushed into IVF from fear or rushed away from it from panic you know this energy. The body knows the difference even when the mind pretends it does not.
“Decisions made under time pressure feel different in the body.”
This episode is not about judging your past choices. It is about seeing the pace. Seeing where presence was replaced by pressure. And asking yourself one honest question. What would have happened if I had allowed more space?
Next week we soften the pace. But first you get to see it.
Timestamps
00:00 Welcome and the shift into week 13
01:14 How time pressure begins narrowing your choices
02:14 Relief based decisions versus clarity
03:12 The fear of waiting and rushing into IVF
04:11 How urgency affects the body and discernment
05:10 Noticing without correcting and preparing to soften pace
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-13When%20Time%20Pressure%20Hijacks%20Your%20Fertility%20Decisions%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Mar 20, 2026
Friday Mar 20, 2026
“You are never doing something wrong. You are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty.”
Topics Discussed
• How fertility burnout subtly becomes identity
• The nervous system response to time anxiety and perceived delay
• IVF trauma and over identification with diagnosis
• Self surveillance tracking and measuring progress
• The disappearance of self compassion under pressure
• Frequency shifts that begin with awareness not force
• Subconscious healing through radical observation
“When time pressure feels personal it creates self surveillance.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
There is a moment on this journey where time pressure stops being about the calendar and starts being about you. Your age. Your diagnosis. Your past failed IVF. Your story. And suddenly fertility burnout is not just exhaustion. It feels like identity. You are no longer navigating a season. You are carrying a label.
This episode is about that shift. The quiet slide from circumstances into self surveillance. The tracking. The measuring. The way your breath shortens when you think you are behind. The way compassion disappears and the inner voice sharpens. This is not because you are broken. It is because you are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty. And that realization alone changes everything.
We talk about subconscious blocks that form when IVF trauma or years of negative tests become personal proof. We talk about frequency and how tension narrows your body without you realizing it. And we talk about noticing. Not fixing. Not performing healing. Just seeing the moment the pressure moves from external to internal. Next week we look at how these identity stories quietly start dictating your choices. And once you see that… you cannot unsee it.
Timestamps
00:00
Welcome and the invitation to radical responsibility
01:07
When time pressure stops being about time
02:03
Over identifying with infertility and past IVF
03:02
Self surveillance tracking and nervous system tension
04:30
Letting the body reveal where it is holding pressure
05:55
Consistency intuition and the quiet work of frequency shifts
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-12Frequency%20Shifts%20for%20Women%20Tired%20of%20Carrying%20Infertility
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Mar 13, 2026
Friday Mar 13, 2026
Topics Discussed
• The subconscious block of feeling behind in motherhood and life
• How fertility burnout is amplified by internal time pressure
• IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of urgency
• The frequency of anxiety when you live in future stories
• Control patterns inherited across generations of women
• Emotional healing through observation rather than force
• The difference between clock deadlines and internal urgency
• Shifting mindset without performing positivity
Timestamps
00:00
Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.
01:03
Ten weeks of awareness around control patterns and overdoing.
01:58
Releasing time pressure and why the real doing may be doing nothing.
03:24
The hidden story of being behind and how it shapes your frequency.
05:13
Noticing how your body responds when urgency shows up.
07:11
Living in the future creates anxiety living in the past creates fear and neither is presence.
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/subconscious-blocks-the-frequency-of-i-m-running-out-of-time-during-infertility-week-11
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Mar 06, 2026
Friday Mar 06, 2026
“You do not need to earn this moment.”
Topics Discussed
• Fertility burnout that hides behind productivity and good intentions
• The subconscious blocks that make rest feel unsafe
• IVF trauma and the nervous system pattern of overdoing
• How guilt shows up when movement slows down
• Emotional healing through radical awareness not performance
• Time pressure stories and the internal fear of being behind
• Mindset shifts that support subconscious healing and frequency change
• Why rest without guilt softens survival mode
“Rest without guilt recalibrates your whole system.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
Last week you noticed how quickly doing replaces feeling. How productivity becomes a shield. This week we stay with what happens when that shield lowers. And usually what shows up first is guilt. Not laziness. Not failure. Guilt. Fertility burnout is rarely about doing too little. It is about never feeling allowed to stop.
When rest appears your nervous system may panic. It might whisper that you are behind. That time is running out. That IVF trauma or past disappointments mean you must push harder. And here is the uncomfortable truth. That push is often the very thing keeping your body in survival mode. Emotional healing begins when you pause without earning it. No reward. No justification. Just presence.
We are also opening the door to time pressure. Not the clock. The internal story that it is too late. That your fertility journey is on a countdown. You already know age is not the whole story. But your subconscious may still be running a fear based script. And that script shapes your frequency more than any supplement ever could.
This is where subconscious healing gets real. Not dramatic. Not loud. Just steady. A sticky note that says you do not need to earn this moment. A breath. A softening. And the quiet realization that safety is not something you achieve through overdoing.
Next week we go deeper into those time stories and the subtle ways they shape your choices. For now just notice what happens when you stop performing. It might be uncomfortable. It might also be the relief you have been craving.
Timestamps
02:29 When overdoing softens and guilt shows up
03:58 Rest without earning it and what your body feels
05:18 Building awareness as subconscious healing
06:15 Time pressure stories and feeling behind
07:40 Trusting your body and staying committed
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilityBurnoutGuiltRestNoOneTalksAboutDuringIVFInfertility
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Feb 27, 2026
Friday Feb 27, 2026
“Stillness removes the buffer. When you stop moving, sensation rises and that can feel uncomfortable AF.”
Topics Discussed
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Why overdoing is often about avoiding stillness, not productivity
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How autopilot patterns keep the nervous system in motion
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The link between safety, control, and fertility burnout
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Why boredom and pauses support creativity and regulation
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Observing impulses without fixing, forcing, or judging
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Learning to choose stillness rather than demand it
“The body doesn’t avoid stillness without a reason. That reaction is information.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode is for the woman who knows she is tired, but cannot quite slow down. The one who has done all the things. The journals. The planning. The perfect routines. And yet something still feels loud inside.
We talk about why stillness can feel unsafe. Not because anything is wrong with you, but because stillness removes distraction. It asks you to be with yourself without a role, without momentum, without identity. And for many women on the fertility journey, that is where the anxiety lives.
This week is not about forcing rest or becoming some calm unicorn overnight. It is about noticing. The reaching. The tightening. The impulse to fill space. And realizing that those mundane moments are where the deepest awareness begins. Next week, we soften even more as rest gets re-framed without guilt or shame.
Timestamps
01:31
Getting out of autopilot in everyday moments
02:30
Why stillness can feel unsafe
03:54
What boredom teaches the nervous system
05:18
The impulse to escape as information
06:47
Re-framing rest without guilt
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/IVF%20Trauma,%20Stillness,%20and%20the%20Body%E2%80%99s%20Need%20to%20Pause%20During%20Infertility
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Feb 20, 2026
Friday Feb 20, 2026
“Urgency is a sensation before it is a decision.”
Topics Discussed
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How overdoing is driven by time pressure, not motivation
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The nervous system pattern underneath fertility burnout
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Why urgency feels responsible even when it is dysregulating
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The illusion of being behind and how it speeds up the body
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Stillness as a threat when worthiness is tied to action
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Noticing sensations instead of fighting stories
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Why slowing down is not indulgent on a fertility journey
“Movement feels like progress even when nothing is actually changing.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode is for the woman who cannot seem to stop doing. Reading. Researching. Optimizing. Fixing. The one who tells herself she will rest once this works. The one whose body feels like it is constantly racing an invisible clock. And somehow, slowing down feels irresponsible.
We are not talking about ambition here. We are talking about urgency. The kind that comes from the story that you are behind. That you should have started earlier. That age is the most important factor. That time is running out. And when that story takes over, the nervous system speeds up, the breath shortens, and overdoing feels like the only option.
This episode is not about stopping or fixing anything. It is about noticing what happens in your body when the rush appears. Because when urgency stops running the show, something very different becomes possible. And next week, we go even deeper into why overdoing is often an avoidance of stillness itself.
Timestamps
01:25
Why overdoing did not start with fertility
02:23
Time pressure and the illusion of being behind
03:48
Movement that feels like progress but is not
04:17
Urgency as a body sensation, not a truth
05:46
What your future child will actually thank you for
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Overdoing,%20Urgency%20&%20the%20Illusion%20of%20Running%20Out%20of%20Time%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Feb 13, 2026
Friday Feb 13, 2026
“If my worth depends on effort, then rest will always feel unsafe.”
Topics Discussed
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Overdoing as identity, not behavior
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Why slowing down can feel threatening instead of nourishing
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The nervous system cost of being the capable one
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How worth becomes tangled with productivity
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Fertility burnout and emotional depletion
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Noticing patterns without fixing or correcting them
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Soft awareness as a form of subconscious healing
“Overdoing isn’t just a habit for many women. It’s an identity.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode goes somewhere tender. Not into doing less. Not into fixing anything. But into the moment where slowing down feels uncomfortable because of who you might be without the doing.
For so many women, overdoing is not a strategy. It is an identity. Being reliable. Being capable. Being the one who holds it all together. And when that identity carries worth, rest does not feel like relief. It feels threatening. Not because things will fall apart, but because a quiet question surfaces underneath it all. Who am I if I stop?
This is not a week for correcting yourself. It is a week for noticing. The guilt. The unease. The urge to justify your time. And what might soften if your worth no longer depended on effort. Listen in and let this one land gently. Something shifts when you see it clearly.
Timestamps
01:06
Why slowing down can feel threatening, not restful
02:03
Overdoing as identity and where worth gets tangled
02:33
The quiet fear underneath constant productivity
03:32
How effort-based worth leads to depletion
04:31
When doing becomes a choice instead of a compulsion
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Fertility%20Burnout%20and%20the%20Identity%20of%20Overdoing%20Everything%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Feb 06, 2026
Friday Feb 06, 2026
There is nothing noble about running yourself into the ground to prove you are enough.
Topics Discussed
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How overdoing disguises itself as being responsible, capable, and admired
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Why slowing down can trigger anxiety, guilt, or loss of identity
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Movement as a coping mechanism for nervous system regulation
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The invisible link between fertility burnout, worthiness, and control
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How awareness softens patterns without forcing change
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What happens when you stop over-functioning for everyone else
Overdoing is not strength. It is often just a nervous system trying to feel safe.
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode is a pause. Not the kind you schedule. The kind that sneaks up on you when you realize how much effort you are pouring into things that are not actually required. The kind that makes you notice how uncomfortable stillness feels when your identity has been built on being the one who does it all.
We talk about overdoing. Not the dramatic kind. The praised kind. The kind that earns compliments while quietly exhausting your nervous system. The kind that looks like leadership, motherhood, fertility dedication, or being the responsible one. And how often that constant motion is not ambition at all, but survival.
If you have ever wondered why slowing down feels harder than pushing through, or why letting something be imperfect makes your chest tighten, this episode is for you. No fixing. No forcing. Just awareness. And what starts to shift when you finally let yourself see the pattern.
Timestamps
01:42
How overdoing hides behind being capable
03:35
Movement as nervous system regulation
04:27
Noticing patterns without judgment
06:18
Letting go of perfection and control
07:07
The link between overdoing and worthiness
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Slowing%20Down%20Can%20Feel%20Unsafe%20During%20Your%20Fertility%20Journey
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Jan 30, 2026
Friday Jan 30, 2026
“There is nothing wrong with you for holding on so tightly. For many women, control once meant survival.”
Topics Discussed
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How control quietly disguises itself as safety
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The nervous system cost of gripping, fixing, and managing
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Why surrender often feels like loss, not relief
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Fear patterns hiding underneath overdoing and overanalyzing
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The difference between effort and force
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How honesty creates more space than pushing ever could
“Surrender is not the absence of action. It is the absence of force.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode is an honest pause. A breath. A moment to look at how tightly you might be holding your life together and why. Not from judgment. Not from fixing. Just from awareness. Because control can feel responsible, productive, and necessary. Until it quietly turns into exhaustion.
I share a very real chapter of my own fertility journey where surrender was not chosen. It was forced. No job. No distractions. No fixing. Just waiting. And while it did not magically guarantee an outcome, it changed how my body experienced life. It showed me how much effort I had been carrying without realizing it.
This week is not about letting go of everything. It is about noticing where surrender feels dangerous. Where ease feels irresponsible. Where your body is bracing instead of breathing. And what might happen if you stopped fighting long enough to feel what is actually there.
Timestamps
00:00
Welcome and setting the tone for noticing control
01:11
How control disguises itself as safety
02:42
Why fear-based effort works against the body
03:35
A personal story of being forced into surrender
07:14
Where gripping shows up in everyday life
08:42
Surrender as honesty, not collapse
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Surrender%20Feels%20So%20Threatening%20When%20You%20Want%20a%20Baby%20During%20Infertility%20IVF
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday Jan 23, 2026
Friday Jan 23, 2026
"There is a difference between being responsible and being regulated."
Topics Discussed
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Control disguised as care, responsibility, and being proactive
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Why overdoing can feel safe but keep the nervous system stuck
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The quiet exhaustion of managing everything and everyone
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How fertility burnout shows up in the mundane moments
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The illusion of success created by control
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Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment
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Why doing nothing for a moment can be deeply regulating
Sometimes fixing is not love. It is fear in a more socially acceptable outfit.
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode is a brutally honest look at control. Not the obvious kind. The sneaky kind. The kind that looks like fixing, managing, improving, optimizing, and being the responsible one. The kind that gets praised. And the kind that quietly keeps your nervous system on edge while your body whispers, or screams, for relief.
I share a very real moment where my own control patterns showed up while recording this very series. The urge to do more. Add more. Fix something that was already enough. And how noticing that impulse changed everything. Because the work that actually shifts fertility, burnout, and emotional exhaustion is not flashy. It is boring. It is mundane. And it asks you to sit with discomfort instead of outrunning it.
If you have ever felt like you are doing everything right and still not seeing the shift you want, this conversation will land. Especially if slowing down feels like giving up. Next week, we are gently reframing surrender so it stops feeling terrifying and starts feeling safe.
Timestamps
01:30
Catching control patterns in real time
03:40
When fixing feels like care but creates burnout
05:10
The illusion of success created by overcontrol
07:45
Why doing less can be deeply regulating
10:50
Becoming the ultimate observer without judgment
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Illusion%20of%20Control%20in%20Infertility%20IVF%20Why%20Less%20Is%20Not%20Giving%20Up
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility
TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.