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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!
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"You can have 500 suitcases lined up full of crap that isn’t yours or just one or two you don’t even realize you’re carrying."
Truth # 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives
Truth # 3 Mable's Hustle Trap: Put the To-Do List Down: What Are You Running From? When Productivity Becomes a Coping Mechanism https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
Topics Discussed
- The sneaky ways buried emotional baggage shows up in your life
- How your subconscious beliefs shape your fertility journey
- The real reason why you might still feel stuck despite doing everything ‘right’
- Why functional medicine alone isn’t always enough
- The power of emotional release and why your gut health depends on it
- Breaking free from childhood programming around emotions
- Whole brain state: a powerful tool to rewire subconscious beliefs
- Why ‘staying strong’ and suppressing emotions could be blocking your fertility
- How unresolved emotions manifest as physical symptoms
- Simple journal prompts to uncover and release emotional baggage
READ Chapter 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-4-mabel-s-buried-emotional-baggage-the-silent-stories-that-shape-our-lives
"Maybe your parents just didn’t want to deal with your emotions because they were raised by the silent generations and emotions weren’t even a thing."
Hello, Beautiful—Monica here, back again with a hard-hitting, no-nonsense dive into your emotional baggage. (Yes, we’re going there today.)
We’re talking about those neatly packed, possibly designer-labeled suitcases of emotions you’ve been dragging around for decades—some that aren’t even yours. Fun, right? Maybe you’ve done all the ‘right’ things—cleaned up your diet, taken the right supplements, maybe even dabbled in energy work—but somehow, you’re still stuck. Here’s a not-so-fun fact: You can’t out-salad your subconscious beliefs.
If your nervous system is still holding onto past emotional wounds, it doesn’t matter how many green juices you chug or how ‘clean’ your diet is—your body is still living in an old story. So today, we’re unpacking those dusty, forgotten emotional wounds that are silently running the show.
We’ll also talk about the oh-so-familiar conditioning many of us got growing up. You know, the "big girls don’t cry,""stop being so sensitive," and "it’s not that big of a deal" mantras that taught us to shove our emotions down like last season’s trends. But here’s the thing—what you suppress doesn’t disappear; it festers, manifests in sneaky ways (hello, chronic gut issues and hormonal chaos), and keeps you stuck in a loop.
And because I love to make things practical, I’m giving you a few journal prompts to help you dig deep, a breakdown of how your beliefs shape your reality, and the inside scoop on whole-brain states (aka how to trick your brain into rewiring old beliefs).
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why you’re still stuck despite doing all the things, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it.
"I wasn’t even really allowed to express my emotions—Wendy the Whiner wasn’t invited, and big girls don’t cry."
Timestamps
03:01 – The truth about buried emotional baggage
04:57 – How subconscious beliefs control your fertility
06:20 – Emotional suppression: the silent fertility killer
08:07 – The physical symptoms of unresolved emotions
10:00 – That moment when you realize your dad’s BS is why you can’t tolerate nightshades
12:46 – How childhood conditioning still affects you today
14:33 – The journal prompts that will change your life
19:14 – What did you need as a child that you never got?
21:36 – The story you’re telling yourself about your body
23:55 – Why functional medicine alone isn’t the whole answer
26:13 – Whole-brain state: the cheat code to subconscious rewiring
30:56 – What happens when the fight is over? (Spoiler: identity crisis)
32:41 – Your challenge for the week—time to release what’s holding you back
"You can’t heal what you’re unwilling to look at."
I’ve got three journal prompts to get you started. Then, don’t forget to access the D.R.E.A.M.S. course for more in-depth support for each area:
1️⃣ "What did I need as a child that I never got?"
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What emotions did I have to suppress?
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How did I learn to cope?
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How is this showing up in my life now?
📌 [Refer to: Energetics—Dealing with the Past (Trauma)]
2️⃣ "If I let myself be really, truly angry, what would I say?"
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No editing. No guilt. Just raw, unfiltered emotion.
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Who am I angry at? Myself? Someone else? Life?
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What have I been swallowing down for years?
📌 [Refer to: Energetics—How to Release Anger and Fear]
3️⃣ "What’s the story I’ve been telling myself about my body, my worth, and my ability to become a mom?"
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Where did this story start?
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Whose voice does it sound like?
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What happens if I let that story go?
📌 [Refer to: Mindset—The Importance of Thinking & Speaking in a More Positive Way]
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf
https://www.findingfertility.co/free3stepguide
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
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Friday Feb 14, 2025
Friday Feb 14, 2025
Truth # 3 Mable's Hustle Trap: Put the To-Do List Down: What Are You Running From? When Productivity Becomes a Coping Mechanism
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVF
"If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything."
Topics Discussed
- The addiction to busyness & why it keeps you stuck in your fertility journey
- Why we equate doing more with progress (and why that’s a lie)
- How avoiding stillness is actually avoiding healing
- The subconscious patterns that drive over-researching and over-planning
- How Mabel, Monica & Monique tackle the obsession with control
- What happens when you finally slow down and listen to your intuition
- The role of stress, cortisol, and burnout in fertility struggles
- Why busyness is often a form of emotional avoidance
- The mindset shifts needed to embrace trust and surrender
- Practical steps to break free from the cycle of overdoing
"Busyness isn’t always about progress. Sometimes it’s just a fancy disguise for avoidance."
Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You’re the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let’s be real for a second—how’s that working out for you?
Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she’ll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way?
Today, we’re diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don’t worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don’t want to hear but absolutely need to).
And because I love making things super practical, I’m giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That’s the point.
So grab your tea (or let’s be real, your third cup of coffee), and let’s get into it.
"If you don’t give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you."
Timestamps
00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast
00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey
00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant
00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses
01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller?
01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness
07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let’s talk about it
07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we’ve all been there)
08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything?
10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling
11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility
12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing
14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body
17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let’s get real)
19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action
21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you’ve been living
23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities
25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness
26:41 - Monique’s take: Stuffing down emotions isn’t a long-term strategy
27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions
28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice)
29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week’s deep dive into emotional baggage
"Repressed feelings don’t stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-impact-of-overworking-stress-on-your-fertility-during-infertility-ivf
https://www.findingfertility.co/free3stepguide
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍
Friday Feb 07, 2025
Friday Feb 07, 2025
"The frequency of actually guiding a soul towards their own autonomy is the highest level mastery position you could have in this life as a female."
Topics Discussed
- Why modern motherhood feels like a trap & how to break free
- The illusion of control & how it sabotages your fertility
- How feminism may have set women up for burnout instead of freedom
- The real cost of trying to “have it all” & what to do instead
- How unresolved generational trauma affects fertility & motherhood
- Why masculine & feminine energy imbalances lead to dysfunction
- The unexpected ways children mirror your emotional wounds
- The importance of presence over perfection in parenting
- How to recognize & break toxic patterns before they pass to your kids
"You’re not here to give your man a baby or have a Pinterest-perfect pumpkin patch photoshoot with your child. You’re here to guide a soul. That’s the assignment."
Hello, beautiful - Monica here and today, we’re diving DEEP into a conversation that might shake up everything you thought you knew about motherhood, fertility, and, well… life itself.
We’re talking about the real reason so many women are burnt out, overwhelmed, and struggling—not just with fertility, but with life balance, motherhood, and relationships. You know that sneaky little voice that says, “You should be doing more”? Yeah, it’s been lying to you.
We’re breaking down the illusion of control and how it keeps you trapped in an exhausting cycle of overwork, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. We’re exposing the dark side of feminism—the part that told us we could (and should) do it all but forgot to mention that “doing it all” comes with a side of adrenal burnout, hormone chaos, and deep dissatisfaction. And let’s talk about generational baggage, because, spoiler alert: If you don’t heal it, your kids WILL carry it.
So grab your tea (or wine, no judgment), because this episode is a no-BS, high-energy call to action to start living in a way that actually supports your body, mind, and soul. Let’s break the cycle and build something better—for us, for our children, and for the generations after that.
"Women are out here taking care of other people’s kids as teachers and nannies, nurturing other families as nurses, and completely neglecting their own. Tell me how that makes sense."
Timestamps
00:00 – Hello beautiful & welcome to Finding Fertility
00:10 – The 6 essential steps to creating the family of your dreams
00:37 – Why radical responsibility is the key to fertility success
00:51 – Important disclaimer before we dive in
01:21 – Why you NEED to get your emotional sh*t together before becoming a mom
03:10 – How not unpacking your trauma keeps you stuck in struggle mode
03:40 – The REAL assignment of motherhood (hint: it’s not what society told you)
04:08 – The self-sacrificing motherhood trap & why you must escape it
05:06 – The ‘oxygen mask’ analogy & why saving yourself is saving your family
07:01 – The feminist lie that left women exhausted & infertile
09:24 – What society gets wrong about the value of feminine energy
12:14 – Girlboss culture: Empowerment or just a different kind of slavery?
17:27 – Your kids will mirror your wounds—whether you heal them or not
19:24 – The life events that finally wake women up to their patterns
23:33 – How your kids actually learn from you (hint: it’s not what you say)
27:27 – The sneaky ways women self-sabotage their fertility & happiness
30:42 – Why some people never get results from self-development work
32:07 – You have to carry your own water: No one else can do the work for you
"We’re out here ‘girlbossing’ ourselves into hormone hell, and then wondering why we’re exhausted, sick, and disconnected from our kids. Newsflash: You can’t have it all without sacrificing something."
Connect with Talie Miller:
https://www.instagram.com/taliemiller
https://substack.com/@taliemiller
Is this all there is?: Awaken to a Deeper Life off of Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hty8ja
Full Transcript on the Blog: Overworked, Burnt Out & Infertile? The Real Reason Women Are Struggling with Fertility with Talie Miller Part 2 - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overworked-burnt-out-infertile-the-real-reason-women-are-struggling-with-fertility-with-talie-miller-part-2
Listen to more great episodes about Spirit Babies & Soul Contracts:
Finding Fertility:
Can Spirit Babies Influence Your "Infertility" Journey to Motherhood with Abigail White Part One: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-swpjm-15d3ad3
Unlocking the Mysteries of Spirit Babies: A Soulful Journey to Parenthood with Abigail White Part Two: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-sxt3x-15d3ada
Choices Podcast:
Beyond Earthly Choices: Understanding Our Spiritual Journey & Soul Contracts Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part One:
https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts-part-1/?token=3aa1307fa564fad67b84586fa3fa6f72
The Ripple Effect of Conscious Choices: Soul Contracts and Purpose with Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part 2: https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts/?token=9a3f3c1ab83d8e675e3c44220ac171fe
Breath of Life Soul Contract Series:
The Hardships of Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt One: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0E8xA0F_bg
Guilt and Fear in Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Two
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QacHjzTqfY
Did you Want to be a Mom: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Three https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaxRZt2NpaA
Why is Parenting so Special: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Four https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPqGdOIntJg
Let's Do This Together 💚https://www.findingfertility.co/free3stepguide
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🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
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Friday Jan 31, 2025
Friday Jan 31, 2025
Uncovering the Hidden Layers of Your Fertility Journey: Radical Responsibility, Intuition & Trust
Welcome back, conscious mamas-to-be! In this week’s Finding Fertility podcast, I take you behind the scenes of what it really takes to navigate your fertility journey with radical responsibility, trust, and deep surrender.
"Your body is time-based, your spirit is timeless. If you don’t integrate healing into the body, it doesn’t stick."
- The Addiction to Busyness: How high-achieving women tie self-worth to staying busy and the impact on fertility.
- Deep Surrender & Letting Go: Why releasing control is the hardest yet most powerful step in the fertility journey.
- Patterns & Quantum Psychology: The role of pattern recognition in identifying emotional and subconscious blocks.
- Inner Work vs. External Fixes: How true transformation comes from within, not just more information.
- The Feminine Wound & Burnout: Why so many women are exhausted and how embracing feminine energy is the key.
- Energy Medicine & Quantum Healing: Bridging psychology, spirituality, and energy work to heal from the inside out.
- Spiritual Detours & Avoidance: The danger of chasing external validation through plant medicine, psychedelics, and endless courses.
- The Power of Integration: Why embodying healing is more important than constantly seeking the next thing.
- Surrendering to True Leadership: The deep desire for strong, grounded masculine energy and why many women struggle with it.
"If you actually tune into the energy of the universe, you’ll see that guiding a soul is the highest level mastery position you could have as a woman."
Hello, Beautiful - Monica here to shake things up, ruffle some feathers, and most importantly, get you to stop overthinking yourself into infertility hell. This episode? It’s personal. I’m talking about the addiction to busyness—something I know way too well. I built my entire business off of it, and guess what? It wasn’t sustainable.
We’re diving into patterns, surrender, and why you might be subconsciously blocking your own success—not just in fertility but in life. And because I’m all about keeping it real, I’m not just talking theory here. I’m sharing my own struggles of letting go, especially when life threw me into deep surrender with my father’s passing. (Spoiler: The universe doesn’t let you fake it.)
But wait, it gets juicier. I’m also bringing you part one of an epic conversation with my mentor, Talie Miller. This woman reads patterns for a living, and trust me, she has a gift. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing ALL the things but still stuck, this episode is a must-listen.
We also tackle the wild world of quantum psychology, energy medicine, and why some of the most popular self-development spaces are basically cults (yep, I said it). And for my Type-A ladies who are trying to “fix” themselves into pregnancy? Oof. You might not love hearing this, but you cannot logic your way into surrender.
So buckle up, because we’re talking intuition, feminine energy, the illusion of control, and why women secretly want strong masculine leadership (but won’t admit it). Oh, and I’ll probably get canceled for saying some of this, but Monique and I are fine with that.
"You can clear your energy all you want, but until your body understands the assignment, nothing changes."
Connect with Talie Miller:
https://www.instagram.com/taliemiller
https://substack.com/@taliemiller
Is this all there is?: Awaken to a Deeper Life off of Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hty8ja
Timestamps
00:00 – Welcome & Why This Episode Almost Didn’t Happen
01:20 – The Addiction to Busyness & How It’s Shown Up in My Own Life
03:06 – Introducing My Mentor, Tali Miller & Why I Love Her Work
04:59 – Why Type-A Women Struggle With Surrender & Stillness
07:25 – What Quantum Psychology Really Is & Why It Matters
12:30 – The Dangers of Spiritual Detours (and Yes, Plant Medicine Too)
17:01 – Emotional Neglect & Why It’s Harder to Heal Than Big Trauma
20:23 – The Role of the Body in Healing & Why It’s Ignored
26:10 – The Importance of Staying in Your Body for True Healing
32:16 – Feminine Energy, Masculine Leadership & Why We’re Burnt Out
36:38 – Motherhood as a Sacred Calling vs. A Box to Check Off
38:05 – Wrapping Up: Next Week’s Episode & Why You Need to Be There
"Your body is time-based, your spirit is timeless. If you don’t integrate healing into the body, it doesn’t stick."
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/is-your-infertility-ivf-journey-just-another-way-you-re-feeding-your-addiction-to-busyness-with-talie-miller
https://www.findingfertility.co/free3stepguide
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍
Friday Jan 24, 2025
How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF
Friday Jan 24, 2025
Friday Jan 24, 2025
Truth # 2: Overthinking, Worry & Fear: How Mabel Found Peace in Her Thoughts:
Topics Discussed
- The difference between rumination and overworrying and how they impact fertility
- Tools to interrupt overthinking patterns and create new neural pathways
- The illusion of control and why overthinking doesn’t create solutions
- Why your age isn’t the true fertility villain—cellular health matters more
- The importance of slowing down and creating space for healing
- How consistent, simple practices can rewire decades of ingrained thought patterns
- Mabel and Monique’s late-night showdown over age anxiety and overthinking
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
"Stop fighting time and start working with it."
Hello, beautiful—Monica here, your guide in uncovering what really matters on your fertility journey. In this episode, we dive into the chaotic storm that is overthinking—you know, that exhausting mental loop where you rehearse every worst-case scenario like you’re auditioning for an Oscar. Spoiler: your mind doesn't actually get a trophy for all that drama.
With the help of my unapologetically sassy alter-ego Monique (yes, she’s back and fiercer than ever) and my ever-panicked former self, Mabel, we unpack the evil twins of rumination and overworrying. Mabel’s spinning out over her age again, convinced the universe slapped an expiration date on her forehead. But don’t worry—Monique’s got her metaphorical megaphone and some hard truths to share.
This episode isn’t about magic fixes or fairy dust; it’s about showing up for yourself in those unglamorous, mundane moments. We’re talking about the simple, powerful shift of saying, “We don’t live here anymore” when your brain starts building castles out of what-ifs. And guess what? If you’re obsessing over the clock ticking, Monique has some spicy words for you—because your age isn’t the real villain here. It’s time to ditch the chaos, embrace clarity, and trust your body’s ability to work with you, not against you.
Grab your tea, your notebook, or just a cozy spot to listen—you don’t want to miss this one. And if you catch yourself spiraling into overthinking after this? Well, you’ll know exactly what to say: “Babe, we don’t live here anymore.”
"Overthinking doesn’t create control—it creates chaos."
Timestamps
00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast
00:10 - Introduction to the six essential steps for your fertility journey
00:37 - Radical responsibility: Trusting your body and creating transformation
01:19 - A grounding meditation to release overthinking
03:00 - Visualization: Letting the river carry away your thoughts
06:26 - Affirmation for calm energy and self-trust
07:39 - Why overthinking feels safe but creates chaos
08:08 - Mabel and Monique’s showdown: Overthinking at midnight
13:44 - The difference between rumination and overworrying
15:10 - Tools to interrupt rumination and over worrying
18:19 - Monica’s personal journey with overthinking and consistency
20:36 - The addiction to control and how it keeps you stuck
21:35 - Preview of next week’s episode: Slowing down and creating space for healing
"Slowing down and sitting with your feelings is where true healing begins."
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-overcome-overthinking-worry-fear-during-infertility-ivf-2
https://www.findingfertility.co/free3stepguide
Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍
Friday Jan 17, 2025
Friday Jan 17, 2025
Hello Beautiful! Let’s talk about something we all love to hate—control. In this episode, I took you on a little meditation journey to ditch the chaos and open yourselves up to receiving all the good vibes. Spoiler alert: we don’t need to white-knuckle every step of this fertility thing!
The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond Truth # 1
Read The Illusion of Control over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Illusion%20of%20Control%20Infertility%20Failed%20IVF%20IUI%20Pregnancy%20Issues
Met three fabulous characters:
- Mabel: The Queen of Overthinking & To-Do Lists (we love her, but girl needs to chill).
- Monica: The grounded guide reminding you to breathe and TRUST the process.
- Monique: The unapologetic truth-teller, side-eyeing your control freak tendencies.
I spill the tea on how trusting, surrendering, and letting go can actually make you feel more empowered, not less. And we’re all about small, actionable steps here—no 300-point fertility checklists, thank you very much.
The Illusion of Control
Let’s call it what it is: CONTROL is a sneaky little minx that makes you feel productive but leaves you spinning your wheels. We channeled our inner Mabels (bless her Type A heart) and reminded her that micromanaging every little thing won’t speed things up.
Trust & Surrender
I know, I know—“trust” and “surrender” sound like buzzwords on a coffee mug. But seriously, letting go of the need to control everything doesn’t mean giving up—it means opening the door for better things to flow in. Baby steps, babe.
Self-Awareness is Sexy
Radical honesty, anyone? I challenged you to check yourself before you wreck yourself. What’s essential? What’s just busywork? Bonus points if you kick that checklist to the curb and lean into grace instead of grind.
Joy, Gratitude & Self-Care
Control blocks joy—it’s science (or at least Monica-science). Slow down, make time for what lights you up, and let your body and intuition do their thing. Pro tip: less Googling, more dancing around the kitchen.
Alright, here’s your homework (but make it fun):
- Be radically honest: Notice when you’re spiraling into overthinking mode (and laugh at yourself a little).
- Simplify your list: Do the important stuff and leave the rest. Seriously, you’re not a fertility robot.
- Build trust: Your body’s got this. Let it work its magic without you micromanaging every second.
- Find joy: Do one thing this week that’s just for YOU. Bonus if it makes you giggle like a kid.
- Make a small shift: Pick one thing to let go of this week—like skipping that extra supplement deep dive or saying no to something that drains you.
Listen, queen: control isn’t the key to your fertility kingdom. Shifting from fear to trust? Now that’s where the magic happens.
Let go, tune in, and take it one step at a time. And if you’re ready to go deeper, I’ve got you covered with community sessions, one-on-one magic, and tools to help you finally ditch the chaos.
So, what’s your one small shift this week? I’m rooting for you—and so is Monique, with her sassy clap-back energy.
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
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Friday Jan 10, 2025
Friday Jan 10, 2025
"Your baby is watching over you, rooting for you to take the steps to become the conscious mama they know you can be."
Topics Discussed
- The concept of the morphic field and how it applies to fertility
- Balancing surrender and control on the fertility journey
- Why healing requires more than physical effort—energetic alignment and belief systems matter
- Stories of clients shifting perspectives and embracing empowered choices
- Overcoming societal pressures and Type A tendencies to let go and trust the process
- The importance of energetic and subconscious shifts for fertility success
"Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up. It means letting go of fear-based decisions and stepping into empowered choices."
Hello, beautiful, Monica here, serving up another soulful—and slightly sassy—dose of Finding Fertility wisdom. Buckle up because this episode isn’t about what your ovaries are doing; it’s about what your mind is doing. Let’s talk morphic fields, baby! No, it’s not sci-fi—it’s science-y magic for your belief system.
Morphic field: https://www.sheldrake.org/research/morphic-resonance/introduction
Today, we dive into why letting go of control doesn’t mean waving the white flag of defeat. Surrendering is actually your secret weapon to crushing Type A tendencies and opening the door to energetic alignment (and let’s be real, less stress). Spoiler alert: fertility isn’t just about diet and supplements—it’s about stepping into the energy of possibility.
I also share stories of clients who’ve stopped living in the land of "medical-only hope" and started listening to their intuition. If you’ve been throwing darts in the dark or feel like every doctor visit is a round of fertility roulette, this episode is your flashlight. So grab your coffee, your tea, or whatever makes you feel like the goddess you are, and let’s get to it!
"Your consistent action creates your evidence. You don’t need proof to believe in your limitless potential."
Timestamps
00:00 – Visualization exercise: Imagine your dream family and align with joy, peace, and love
00:28 – The six vital steps for fertility success: Diet, rest, energetics, awareness, mindset, and surrender
02:22 – Understanding the morphic field: Believing in your body’s natural ability to heal
04:10 – Why belief systems are key to overcoming infertility blocks
06:07 – Real client stories: Intuition vs. fear-based decisions in fertility journeys
09:49 – How to shift from control to surrender without losing hope
13:27 – Energetic lessons and how they impact your fertility journey
17:49 – Why starting over isn’t starting from scratch—it’s starting smarter
20:33 – Closing thoughts: Stepping into the energy of possibility
"Your body is a healing machine, designed to reset and thrive when you align with its natural flow."
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Friday Jan 03, 2025
Friday Jan 03, 2025
"Your baby is watching over you. Start living your life in the energy of joy, peace, and love."
Topics Discussed
- The surprising ways diet can harm your fertility journey.
- Why keto and paleo might not be the right diets for you.
- The dangers of over-supplementing and its impact on detoxification.
- How back-to-back fertility treatments like IVF and IUI may hinder success.
- The Type A trap: why overdoing it harms your fertility journey.
- The power of patience and listening to your body’s needs.
"We type-A our way into infertility, thinking checklists and overdoing will save us—it won’t."
Hello beautiful, Monica here! Let me just start by saying, if you’re one of those amazing, determined women who think they can bulldoze their way through fertility challenges with sheer willpower and an endless checklist… buckle up, because I’m about to burst that bubble with love and honesty.
This episode dives into the oh-so-common traps we all fall into on the fertility journey. From the "health" foods that might be your worst enemy (hello, tomatoes!) to the supplement aisle looking like a fertility gold mine but actually being a liver’s worst nightmare—we’re calling it all out.
And let’s not forget the emotional and physical toll of IVF and IUI. Yep, we’re going there, because someone has to say it: more treatments don’t always equal more chances. I also share a bit about my own Type A tendencies and how they didn’t just slow me down—they made my body rebel. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just outwork this infertility thing,” let me save you some time: stop.
Tune in for some real talk, a little tough love, and a whole lot of practical tips to help you step back, slow down, and get on the right path to becoming the conscious mama your baby knows you can be.
"Most people going through fertility treatments don’t actually need IVF—they need to heal first."
Timestamps
- 00:00: Visualization exercise—align your energy with your dream family.
- 00:28: The six vital steps to fertility success: diet, rest, energetics, and more.
- 00:56: Welcome to Finding Fertility: Why infertility isn’t always about your lady bits.
- 01:50: The harms of social media black holes—and the lessons from TikTok.
- 02:48: Diet mistakes: Why keto and paleo might not work for you.
- 04:00: Over-supplementation and the strain it puts on your liver.
- 04:50: The hidden costs of repeated IVF cycles and fertility drugs.
- 06:10: The importance of health improvements between fertility treatments.
- 07:08: Type A tendencies: How overdoing and stress derail fertility.
"Stop over-supplementing—it’s not a quick fix, and your liver isn’t a superhero."
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Friday Dec 27, 2024
Friday Dec 27, 2024
What Testing Should I Do During Infertility – Investing in Fertility Testing: Is it Worth It?
"Remember, anytime you're looking into testing, ask yourself if it's the right test for you and if it brings you peace of mind."
Topics Discussed:
🦩 The different fertility tests and their relevance.
🦩 Addressing underlying causes rather than focusing only on symptoms.
🦩 How to tap into intuition and focus on mindset.
🦩How not to let testing dictate your entire approach.
Are the tests you’re considering worth it, or could other changes you can control make a bigger impact on your journey?
In this episode of the Finding Fertility podcast, I discuss the importance of individualized testing for key tests like food sensitivity tests, gut health analyses, and the Dutch hormone test. I also explain how I help my community understand when to seek specific tests and how to interpret them.
Listen in to learn the importance of addressing the root cause of issues rather than seeing tests as the end-all solution. You will also learn how to trust your intuition, stay consistent with healthy habits, and embrace the fertility journey with confidence.
"Testing provides a snapshot of what your body is doing now, reflecting your past but not predicting your future."
Episode Highlights:
- [02:14] The three key tests for my community – food sensitivity, gut health, and hormone testing.
- [03:09] Why I don't review medical test results in group sessions but instead do it for my one-on-one clients.
- [04:27] Things to consider before pursuing certain fertility tests and why you should be testing areas impacting your overall health and fertility.
- [07:33] The importance of focusing on the root causes of hormonal imbalances rather than relying solely on traditional test results.
- [09:30] The importance of focusing on controllable lifestyle choices rather than letting test results dictate your fertility journey.
- [10:40] Remember to trust your intuition, stay consistent with healthy habits, and embrace the journey with confidence.
Full transcripts over on the blog:
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Friday Dec 20, 2024
Friday Dec 20, 2024
Crucial Tips for Choosing Protein Powder - Fertility Shakes vs. Real Food During Infertility & IVF
“When you do use a protein shake, you want to have something alongside that you can eat to help start the digestive process.”
Topics Discussed:
🦩 The role of smoothies in a fertility diet.
🦩 Whey intolerance and alternative protein options.
🦩 The importance of real food in supporting healing.
🦩 The pros and cons of protein powders.
🦩 How chewing stimulates digestion and nutrient absorption.
How often do you take the all-too-popular fertility smoothie as a supplement? Protein smoothies and powders have pros and cons and are better taken occasionally than as meal replacements.
In this episode of the Finding Fertility podcast, I discuss the importance of whole real foods for long-term fertility health and use of fertility smoothies as supplementation. I also explain how to choose a high-quality, nutrient-dense supplementation to avoid artificial sweeteners and hidden intolerances.
Listen in to learn how to be mindful and present for digestion by adding solid food for chewing alongside shakes and drinking them slowly.
“Consider your protein shake as a supplement, not a meal replacement. Think of it as part of your fertility journey, not the whole journey.”
Episode Highlights:
- [03:38] The benefits and drawbacks of protein shakes and the importance of real food over powdered foods in healing.
- [05:21] The impact of whey protein intolerance on some people and alternative options like pea protein for busy lifestyles.
- [08:21] How to look out for artificial sweeteners, hidden intolerances, and the importance of listening to your body when introducing new products.
- [09:05] Why you should treat protein shakes as a supplement rather than a meal replacement.
- [11:25] The digestive importance of chewing food and savoring meals for better nutrient absorption.
- [13:23] How to be mindful and present for digestion by adding solid food alongside shakes and drinking them slowly.
- [15:29] Tips on balancing supplementation and avoiding excessive intake of fortified nutrients.
- [18:16] The importance of eating real food and not making supplementation a go-to for a balanced lifestyle.
Full transcripts over on the blog:
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