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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!
54 minutes ago
54 minutes ago
You don’t have to hold on to what’s not yours. Let the earth take it.
Topics Discussed:
You are not meant to carry it all. You’re meant to clear, to ground, to connect.
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
Let’s get real: if you’re exhausted from trying everything and still feeling like your body’s working against you, this episode is for you. I’m guiding you through the exact energy-clearing meditation that’s helped me show up with way more peace, trust, and emotional bandwidth—even on the wildest days. No white-knuckling. No fake zen. Just real, grounded energy work that clears out the crap clogging your system.
Because here’s the deal: when you’re on the fertility rollercoaster, your nervous system doesn’t lie. You can drink the green juice, pop the supplements, and track your cycle till you’re blue in the face—but if you’re energetically clogged, you’re not going to hear your intuition. This practice helps you drop in fast, clear emotional junk drawers, and open up that divine two-way convo between your womb and the universe.
This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up for your energy like it actually matters. Press play, drop in, and let’s start clearing what was never yours to carry.
Consistency isn't control—it’s devotion to your own energy.
Timestamps
00:00 - Why your nervous system needs this daily practice
01:30 - How Monica uses this meditation in chaotic moments
05:32 - Rooting into the earth: releasing what you’ve absorbed
08:57 - Connecting to source: your body’s divine channel
11:35 - Building your frequency field for daily energetic protection
14:13 - How to instantly return to this grounded state
16:07 - A bold offer for burnt-out women ready to break the cycle
This is one of the best ways to feel the energetic shift you’ve been longing for.
Full Transcript on the Blog: Grounding & Clearing Energy Activation Meditation for IVF & Infertility
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Monica
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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
Friday May 09, 2025
Friday May 09, 2025
Stillness isn’t stagnation. It’s integration.
Topics Discussed
The chaos addiction blocking your fertility
Nervous system dysregulation and fertility struggles
How trauma patterns show up after you get pregnant
Epigenetics, motherhood, and the cost of overdoing
Why your body can’t receive in a high-alert state
The energetic upgrade from hustle to healing
How to actually trust the pause without spiraling
You can chase in chaos, but you can’t receive in chaos.
Show Notes Summary
Hello Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica here...
This one's raw, real, and honestly a little uncomfortable, in the best way. I skipped a podcast episode for the first time in five years. Not because I forgot. Not because I didn’t care. But because I’m practicing what I preach: stepping out of chaos and into calm.
This episode is a full-on permission slip to stop running yourself into the ground in the name of fertility. The endless doing, fixing, tweaking, chasing—it might feel productive, but it’s actually the very frequency that’s keeping your body in survival. Stillness, on the other hand, is scary because it’s unfamiliar. But that’s exactly where your intuition gets loud and your nervous system learns to receive.
I get into how these patterns don’t magically disappear once you get pregnant, and why so many mamas find themselves overwhelmed, triggered, and exhausted postpartum. If your chaos feels safer than peace, this episode is your invitation to shift.
Press play. Let it land. And ask yourself: what if letting go is what moves you forward?
You’re not falling behind. You’re finally tuning in.
Timestamps
00:00 Why chaos is more comfortable than calm
03:25 The illusion of productivity in your fertility journey
04:52 Pregnancy and motherhood don’t erase your patterns
07:50 The chaos comfort zone and your nervous system
08:51 Why peace can feel like panic and how to shift
12:54 Stillness as the gateway to intuition and coherence
14:50 How to gently rewire your frequency without overwhelm
16:18 Stillness doesn't mean failure. It means possibility
20:04 Preview of next week’s grounding and clearing practice
Read Mable's Truth # 10: Finding Comfort in Chaos During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-10-finding-comfort-in-chaos-during-infertility-ivf
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-reason-you-re-addicted-to-doing-on-your-ttc-infertility-ivf-journey
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
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Friday Apr 25, 2025
Friday Apr 25, 2025
"You do not need another plan, you need presence."
Topics Discussed:
How scattered priorities sabotage fertility healing
Rewiring subconscious patterns with consistency
Understanding fear-based supplement routines
The emotional cost of over-functioning and perfectionism
Embodying the energy you want your baby to be raised in
Recognizing when ‘calm’ is just another performance
How to shift from chasing to receiving
Truth # 9 Scattered Priorities During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-9-scattered-priorities-during-infertility-ivf
"Your baby is not waiting for you to be perfect, your baby is waiting for you to stop abandoning yourself."
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...
Today’s episode is not for the faint of heart, but for the brave souls ready to ditch the invisible hustle and finally get real about where their energy is leaking. If you think slowing down means you're not hustling anymore, think again. Inside, you might still be sprinting like you are training for the Fertility Olympics. In this episode, we call out the sneaky ways perfectionism, fear-based habits, and shiny new supplement plans are secretly sabotaging your journey — and we bring it all back to radical honesty, radical presence, and radical self-love.
We even tap into the deeper truth that sometimes, the stillness you are craving feels terrifying because your nervous system only knows chaos. Spoiler alert: you cannot out-supplement, out-research, or out-strategize your way into coherence. You have to live it. Piece by piece, moment by moment, tree nap by tree nap. If you are ready to stop proving, stop chasing, and start receiving, this episode is your wake-up call.
"Some of your healthy habits might be keeping you stuck, because they are still rooted in fear."
Timestamps
00:00 – The real reason your fertility journey feels overwhelming
01:30 – How scattered priorities sneak in without you noticing
03:00 – Why calm is not clarity if you are still performing
06:00 – Supplements: helpful support or fear-based crutch
09:00 – Radical responsibility and emotional triggers
13:00 – Why consistency, not chaos, brings your dreams into reality
"Your dreams are not far away, they are already here — you just have to meet them in your now."
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-break-free-from-overthinking-and-hustle-energy-during-ivf-infertility
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Apr 18, 2025
Friday Apr 18, 2025
“Your old self will fight you over stillness because she doesn’t believe it’s safe.”
• The gut-brain-womb connection
• Fascia, trauma, and reproductive inflammation
• Physical manifestations like fibroids and endometriosis
• The emotional aftermath of fertility treatments
• Why you still don’t trust your body after IVF
• The illusion of control
• Grieving as a form of healing
• Honoring emotional waves rather than bypassing them
• Frequency shifts through micro-moments
• Living in survival mode and how to get out
• The danger of looping old subconscious patterns
• Why trust lives in the body, not the mind
• How coherence creates space for alignment
• Energetic stillness as the new safety
“The magic doesn’t lie in the knowledge—it’s in the integration, the coherence, the alignment.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
Today’s episode is a love note to every over-functioning, perfection-chasing woman who's convinced that doing more is the only way out. Spoiler alert: it’s not. In fact, the exact thing you’re resisting—stillness—is the very frequency your future baby is waiting for.
We’re diving deep into how Mabel, our resident recovering Type A, finally did something different. She didn’t buy another supplement. She didn’t add a new protocol. She simply slowed down. And in that pause, she found the real power—safety, trust, and coherence.
You’ll hear why emotional trauma disrupts more than your mindset—it lives in your fascia, your gut, your womb. And if you don’t feel safe in your body, how the hell are you supposed to trust it? From grief to gut health to gut punches of truth, this episode hits hard and soft all at once.
Listen in, feel it all, and get ready to stop spiraling and start receiving.
“You can’t trust your body if you don’t feel safe inside it.”
00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol
01:03 – The micro-moment that changed everything for Mabel
03:22 – Coherence vs. chaos: your body craves a new kind of safety
04:46 – Real reasons you don’t trust your body (and it’s not your fault)
06:43 – Trauma, fascia, and the invisible root of fertility issues
08:11 – Monica’s raw story of grief and honoring emotional waves
10:31 – Radical responsibility in the mundane moments
12:22 – What Mabel’s spirit baby revealed (and why it’ll give you chills)
15:03 – The one small thing you can do today to shift your energy
“Trust doesn’t live in your brain—it lives in your body.”
Read Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-8-what-if-the-pause-is-the-portal-to-fertility-success-during-ivf-infertility
Full transcript over on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/still-stuck-in-infertility-ivf-burnout-the-subtle-shift-that-changes-everything
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Apr 11, 2025
Friday Apr 11, 2025
This Active Meditation Helps You Hear the Fertility Answers Already Inside You
"Your intuition isn’t missing, it’s just buried under layers of fear, guilt, and Google tabs."
Topics Discussed:
• Fertility burnout and emotional fatigue
• IVF trauma and feeling broken after failure
• The subconscious blocks sabotaging inner knowing
• A guided frequency-based practice to shift stuck emotions
• Gut instinct vs. overthinking (and how your body tells the truth)
• Coherence, embodiment, and listening to the womb-heart-brain connection
Truth # 7: From Overthinking to Inner Knowing During Infertility: Trusting Yourself on the Road to Pregnancy: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overthinking-to-inner-knowing-during-infertility
"Intuition isn’t a magical skill you need to learn, it’s a power you need to stop ignoring."
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...
You’ve done it all. You’ve tracked, tested, timed, and twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to "do it right"—but something still feels off. In this episode, we go deep into what that off actually is. Spoiler: it’s not your uterus, it’s not your protocol, it’s not even the moon phase. It’s that you’ve been trained to trust data over your divine knowing, and it’s time to come back home to yourself.
Mabel’s journey through IVF heartbreak led her not to the end, but to the beginning of her own awakening. And yours can too. This episode walks you through a powerful, active meditation to shift the stuck frequencies that are jamming your inner signal. We’re talking fear, guilt, shame, grief—the whole unglamorous gang—and helping you finally feel them so you can alchemize them.
Get cozy or take this on a walk and let this practice unlock the clarity that’s been inside you all along. Ready to stop chasing and start trusting? Then press play.
"I do not lose the dream, I alchemize it."
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why tuning into intuition is more powerful than another supplement
02:50 – The moment Mabel ignored her inner knowing and hit her breaking point
04:44 – The step-by-step frequency practice to unblock intuition
06:13 – Where emotions get stuck in the body and what they might look like
12:48 – Honoring your frequency and shifting stuck emotions
15:42 – Anchoring into love, creativity, and the frequency of motherhood
"Your womb holds unexpressed potential. Stop silencing her with spreadsheets and fear."
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-fertility-clarity-you-ve-been-ignoring-hint-it-s-not-another-protocol-during-ivf-infertility
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Apr 04, 2025
Friday Apr 04, 2025
How self-sabotage shows up in fertility journeys
The connection between fear of judgment and subconscious patterns
Why we suppress our truth without realizing it
How childhood experiences program our nervous system to stay “safe”
Fertility success as a byproduct of aligning with your authentic self
The importance of subconscious empowerment and emotional processing
How to break through ingrained patterns using Fertile Mind & DREAMS
Affirmations to rewire fear-based beliefs
Monica’s personal story of transformation from insecure to empowered
Fertility not being something you fix—because you're not broken
Motherhood as the ultimate mirror
Why radical responsibility & inner work are non-negotiables for conscious motherhood
Hello beautiful! Monica here—and ooooh baby, are we getting into the thick of it this week. You ever feel like you’ve become the main villain in your own fertility story? Like you’re standing at the edge of breakthrough-ville, but your subconscious is like, “Nope. Let’s binge Netflix and spiral instead.” Yep, that’s self-sabotage, and she’s a sneaky little gremlin with a crown.
In this episode, we’re diving into why you keep getting in your own way—even when you know better. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your subconscious is on full panic mode, terrified of being judged, rejected, or—gasp—seen. I unpack a real (and wildly relatable) conversation with a Finding Fertility community member who said, “Even when I know I’m doing it, I can’t stop sabotaging myself.” Cue the collective “ugh, SAME.”
We talk about the fears that drive these patterns, how they tie into your childhood, and why they absolutely have everything to do with your fertility—even if they seem unrelated. And I’m not just dishing theory here. You’ll get practical tools, soul-hitting affirmations, and even some sass about why getting pregnant isn’t the endgame—becoming the conscious version of you is.
So if you’ve ever filtered yourself in fear, stayed quiet to keep the peace, or talked yourself out of doing something your soul was screaming for—this one’s for you. Let’s crack open those protective shells, pour some love on your scared inner child, and rewire those crusty old stories. Because your body? She already knows what to do. Now it’s your job to stop getting in her way.
00:00 Welcome & intro
01:01 Why self-sabotage is more common than we think
02:30 Fear of judgment & the subconscious mind
04:18 Suppressing our truth without realizing it
05:13 Childhood programming & nervous system safety
06:11 What this has to do with fertility
07:39 Returning to your center—your “North Pole”
08:35 The role of subconscious empowerment in change
10:32 Tools to break self-sabotage: awareness & action
12:27 Affirmations to shift your self-beliefs
14:53 Self-sabotage is just a cry for safety
15:23 Monica’s personal story of transformation
16:47 Boosting cellular health = fertility magic
18:39 Tease for next week’s episode: The Distress of Intuition
19:38 Invitation for a breakthrough session
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-truth-about-self-sabotage-cellular-health-fertility-success-when-you-re-dealing-with-infertility
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 28, 2025
Friday Mar 28, 2025
“I don't care if it's voodoo, it's working.”
The power of using your voice on the fertility journey
How childhood wounds and people-pleasing patterns sabotage fertility
Gut health and its surprising connection to emotional suppression
Letting go of perfectionism and societal expectations
Radical responsibility and nervous system regulation
Understanding the energetic roots of fertility issues
The impact of SIBO and functional medicine protocols
The role of inner child healing and subconscious reprogramming
Challenges of navigating fertility with a partner not on the same page
Releasing limiting beliefs and stepping into trust and surrender
“If you don't feel safe, and you're in a state of fear, you're going to have cortisol overdrive.”
Hello, beautiful Monica here! And oh honey, buckle up, because today we’re diving into the emotional jungle gym that is your fertility journey. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about diet, supplements, and fancy med protocols. Sometimes, the real block is you not using your damn voice. Yep, we said it.
In this raw and revelatory episode, we sit down with a brave soul who has been through more fertility treatments than anyone should ever have to endure (we're talking double digits, people). But the real kicker? She hadn’t been speaking up—for her body, her emotions, her intuition. And let’s be real, when your husband is channeling all the Type A, competitive, masculine energy, it’s no surprise your inner child is quietly rocking in a corner whispering, “Please don’t fight.”
We talk about burping (yes, burping) and how it's somehow the digestive version of not using your voice—seriously, who knew your gut could get passive-aggressive too? We unravel people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the childhood moments that had you hustling for love and safety. Monica walks her guest through a transformational subconscious technique that had her feeling chills—in the best possible way. And just when you think you’ve heard it all, we go full metaphysical with past life patterns and inner child work. Because why not?
So if you’ve been quietly nodding along with society’s rules while screaming inside, this one’s your wake-up call. Spoiler: the more you people-please, the longer you stay in fertility hell. Let’s change that.
“You attract what you're vibing on.”
03:13 When you don’t use your voice, you’re not setting boundaries or following your intuition
05:39 Gut symptoms like burping linked to emotional suppression
07:04 Quitting a high-stress job and facing fears of disappointing a partner
10:23 Relationship shifts and fear of changing the status quo
13:37 Fertility treatments making things worse when gut health isn’t addressed
16:52 Having the courage to stand in your power—even if it feels like you need “balls” to do it
18:44 The ‘no’ phase of fertility and becoming radically selfish (in the best way)
21:38 Childhood rot, emotional inheritance, and the body’s reaction to unresolved trauma
24:31 The danger of outsourcing worthiness and the subtle art of not giving a f**k
26:52 Internalizing the need to be perfect and strong to keep the peace
28:58 Visualization and emotional flipping technique to rewire stored trauma
34:18 Whole brain integration and the chills-inducing release moment
39:23 Bringing a photo of your inner child into your healing journey
42:11 Choosing to step into the woman you were born to be, baby or no baby
45:02 Fertility Breakthrough Sessions: What they are, who they're for, and how to get one
“This is not evidence of your future, because you’re going to start moving differently now.”
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-burnout-to-fertility-breakthrough-the-real-reason-you-re-not-getting-pregnant
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 21, 2025
Friday Mar 21, 2025
"Your body innately knows how to do fertility—it’s just waiting for you to stop micromanaging."
Topics Discussed
"You can’t have and want at the same time."
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here to shake things up and throw a little radical honesty your way.
Ever feel like you’re trapped in the never-ending cycle of “trying” to get pregnant? Like your whole existence has somehow become wrapped up in charting, Googling, and second-guessing every decision? Well, buckle up, because we’re about to dive into why that’s a huge part of the problem.
This episode is all about the identity you’ve unknowingly taken on—the one who is always trying. And guess what? That identity might just be keeping you stuck. We’re talking about why your subconscious clings to this label, how hope (yes, even hope) can sometimes keep you in limbo, and why shifting from wanting to having is the secret sauce you didn’t know you needed.
I also get into the real reason your body might not be “playing along” with your fertility goals (spoiler: it’s not because it’s broken). It’s because stress and control are energy vampires, and your body needs to feel safe before it gives the green light to baby-making.
So if you’re ready to ditch the death grip on your journey, trust your body, and step into the energy of having, this episode is your permission slip to finally let go. Let’s do this!
Read Truth #6: The Identity of ‘The One Who’s Trying’ https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-identity-of-the-one-who-s-trying
01:30 – The inspiration for this episode: a perfectly timed post about letting go
02:53 – Why clinging to the “trying” identity could be keeping you in an endless loop
04:48 – The sneaky way your subconscious labels shape your reality (and how to shift it)
06:42 – You can’t have and want at the same time—how to embody trust instead
07:48 – Why white-knuckling your way through this journey is an energy drain
08:44 – The magic in the mundane: shifting from lack to joy in everyday life
09:37 – Hope isn’t the problem…until it is. When hope keeps you stuck instead of moving forward
11:33 – The fear that keeps you gripping control: If I let go, am I giving up? (Spoiler: nope)
12:48 – How your body actually thrives when you stop stressing over every little detail
14:15 – Why quick fixes don’t work & what to focus on instead
15:14 – A sneak peek at next week’s episode: a game-changing fertility breakthrough session!
"Hope is supposed to be a bridge, not a place where you set up camp and live forever."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilitySuccessTrustingBodyBreakingFreeInfertilityStruggle
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 14, 2025
Friday Mar 14, 2025
"The shift from chasing to trusting is the real work. It’s easy to stay in a loop of doing more research, more protocols, more control. But remember, the real magic is when you stop overcompensating and start trusting yourself."
"If you deep down don’t believe you deserve to become a mother, you’ll subconsciously create obstacles to prevent it."
Truth # 4: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-z2s2n-18073a4
Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today we’re diving into a mind-bending, slightly uncomfortable (but wildly important) topic—FEAR OF SUCCESS. Yep, you read that right. Not fear of failure. Fear of actually getting what you want.
Sounds crazy, right? I mean, isn’t the whole point of this journey to become pregnant? But let’s be real—your brain has been so busy obsessing over the struggle, the next supplement, the next protocol, the next thing—that the idea of finally crossing the finish line is, well… TERRIFYING. Because what happens when you’re no longer the one “trying”? What happens when you do get pregnant?
Your subconscious is sneaky like that. It convinces you that staying in the hamster wheel of research and control is saferthan stepping into the unknown of success. Because success means transformation. It means surrender. And let’s be honest—Type-A, overachieving, Google-addicted Mabel is not a fan of surrender.
In this episode, Monique is rolling her eyes at Mabel’s overthinking, Monica is here to gently guide the way, and YOU are going to uncover whether fear of success is secretly sabotaging your journey. You’ll also get three game-changing questions to sit with (preferably under a tree, because let’s add some nature to the healing process, shall we?).
So, if you’ve been stuck in doing instead of trusting, if pregnancy feels just as scary as infertility, or if your brain has ever whispered “What if I mess this up?”—this episode is your wake-up call. Let’s break the cycle and step into the version of you who is ready to receive.
"For so long, you have been the woman who’s trying. That’s who you are. That’s how you relate to yourself, your partner, your doctors. The idea of not being her anymore? That can feel like a loss—even though it’s what you want more than anything."
00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility! Let’s talk about the sneaky fear of success.
01:33 – Why getting pregnant might feel scarier than failing (subconscious sabotage 101)
02:56 – “What if I don’t deserve this?” How unworthiness keeps you stuck
04:26 – The real reason you can’t stop doing (and why sitting under a tree might help)
06:23 – Mabel’s lesson on repeating the same old patterns in fertility
07:19 – The 3 questions you need to ask yourself today
08:34 – If you stop chasing and start trusting… who even are you?
10:00 – The science behind stress in pregnancy (aka, get that cortisol down NOW)
11:29 – Letting go of the identity of the “woman who’s trying”
12:56 – How to shift into the version of you that’s ready to receive
"The magic is in the mundane. When you feel that anxiety bubbling up, the real work is sitting in the uncomfortableness of not doing."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-chasing-to-fertile-trusting-the-real-mindset-shift-for-fertility-success
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🍍Friday Mar 07, 2025
Friday Mar 07, 2025
"If you're still feeling stuck, if you're still feeling there's something more, it's because you're not going inward enough."
"The answer is within, the answer is always within."
Hello, beautiful—the voice of Monica is here to shake up your fertility mindset once again. If you’re still on the never-ending hamster wheel of “doing all the things” but still feel like you’re getting nowhere, buckle up because today’s episode is your reality check. We’re talking about something that might make your Type A tendencies twitch—slowing down. Yep, the thing that feels impossible but is actually the secret sauce to unlocking your fertility and overall well-being.
Rebecca Rankin is back, and we’re diving deep into why ignoring your body’s signals, overriding your natural rhythms, and stuffing your schedule with all the “fertility must-dos” is actually working against you. We’re talking about real radical honesty—the kind that makes you question your midnight Googling sessions and your obsession with finding the next best supplement. Spoiler alert: the answer isn’t out there. It’s in you. Always has been.
We also get into the not-so-sexy but oh-so-important truth about consistency, how your hormones affect EVERYTHING (yes, even that sudden urge to question your entire existence while doing the dishes), and why menopause might actually be your power era instead of something to dread. Plus, we tackle the biggest lie in the fertility world: the idea that once you “fix” your health, life will be smooth sailing forever. Newsflash—it’s a lifelong journey, but one you actually have control over.
So, if you’re ready to ditch the frantic energy and actually start aligning with your body’s wisdom, this episode is for you. Let’s go.
"Slowing down enough to listen to yourself is the most radical act of self-care you can do."
00:37 – The power of radical responsibility and self-trust in fertility
01:17 – Why the inner work feels “slow” but is actually the fastest way to transformation
02:32 – The hard truth about healing: Why modalities don’t work if you avoid the real work
03:53 – How past traumas and subconscious programming affect your nervous system
04:51 – The lost art of slowing down: Why we ignore our intuition
06:19 – Practitioners as mirrors, not saviors—how to know when to trust yourself
07:48 – Are you living on autopilot? Why you need to take back control
09:14 – The silent work your body does for you—hormones, gut health & energy
10:36 – Consistency over perfection: The secret to long-term healing
11:34 – The domino effect of small daily changes on your health & mindset
13:30 – How society has conditioned women to ignore their own needs
16:21 – The rising infertility crisis: What sperm health tells us about modern health
17:19 – Why birth control masks issues instead of fixing them
19:42 – Menopause: The era of not giving a f*** and stepping into your power
21:30 – The body’s signals don’t lie: How to listen and respond to your own needs
22:56 – Can you sit with yourself? Why true transformation happens in stillness
23:50 – The radical idea of just being with yourself—no distractions, no numbing
24:47 – Final thoughts: The one small action you can take today to shift your energy
"You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to show up for yourself every single day."
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Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-radical-honesty-can-transform-your-mindset-fertility-journey-with-rebecca-rankin-part-2
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