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Welcome to your no B.S. approach to creating the family of your DREAMS when you’re dealing with Fertility Issues, aka ”Infertility”! Whether you can get pregnant naturally or need medical assistance, Finding Fertility can help you maximise your chances of getting and staying pregnant by using science-backed Holistic Functional Fertility Health Coaching!
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“Your old self will fight you over stillness because she doesn’t believe it’s safe.”
• The gut-brain-womb connection
• Fascia, trauma, and reproductive inflammation
• Physical manifestations like fibroids and endometriosis
• The emotional aftermath of fertility treatments
• Why you still don’t trust your body after IVF
• The illusion of control
• Grieving as a form of healing
• Honoring emotional waves rather than bypassing them
• Frequency shifts through micro-moments
• Living in survival mode and how to get out
• The danger of looping old subconscious patterns
• Why trust lives in the body, not the mind
• How coherence creates space for alignment
• Energetic stillness as the new safety
“The magic doesn’t lie in the knowledge—it’s in the integration, the coherence, the alignment.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
Today’s episode is a love note to every over-functioning, perfection-chasing woman who's convinced that doing more is the only way out. Spoiler alert: it’s not. In fact, the exact thing you’re resisting—stillness—is the very frequency your future baby is waiting for.
We’re diving deep into how Mabel, our resident recovering Type A, finally did something different. She didn’t buy another supplement. She didn’t add a new protocol. She simply slowed down. And in that pause, she found the real power—safety, trust, and coherence.
You’ll hear why emotional trauma disrupts more than your mindset—it lives in your fascia, your gut, your womb. And if you don’t feel safe in your body, how the hell are you supposed to trust it? From grief to gut health to gut punches of truth, this episode hits hard and soft all at once.
Listen in, feel it all, and get ready to stop spiraling and start receiving.
“You can’t trust your body if you don’t feel safe inside it.”
00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol
01:03 – The micro-moment that changed everything for Mabel
03:22 – Coherence vs. chaos: your body craves a new kind of safety
04:46 – Real reasons you don’t trust your body (and it’s not your fault)
06:43 – Trauma, fascia, and the invisible root of fertility issues
08:11 – Monica’s raw story of grief and honoring emotional waves
10:31 – Radical responsibility in the mundane moments
12:22 – What Mabel’s spirit baby revealed (and why it’ll give you chills)
15:03 – The one small thing you can do today to shift your energy
“Trust doesn’t live in your brain—it lives in your body.”
Read Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-8-what-if-the-pause-is-the-portal-to-fertility-success-during-ivf-infertility
Full transcript over on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/still-stuck-in-infertility-ivf-burnout-the-subtle-shift-that-changes-everything
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🍍Friday Apr 11, 2025
Friday Apr 11, 2025
This Active Meditation Helps You Hear the Fertility Answers Already Inside You
"Your intuition isn’t missing, it’s just buried under layers of fear, guilt, and Google tabs."
Topics Discussed:
• Fertility burnout and emotional fatigue
• IVF trauma and feeling broken after failure
• The subconscious blocks sabotaging inner knowing
• A guided frequency-based practice to shift stuck emotions
• Gut instinct vs. overthinking (and how your body tells the truth)
• Coherence, embodiment, and listening to the womb-heart-brain connection
Truth # 7: From Overthinking to Inner Knowing During Infertility: Trusting Yourself on the Road to Pregnancy: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overthinking-to-inner-knowing-during-infertility
"Intuition isn’t a magical skill you need to learn, it’s a power you need to stop ignoring."
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...
You’ve done it all. You’ve tracked, tested, timed, and twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to "do it right"—but something still feels off. In this episode, we go deep into what that off actually is. Spoiler: it’s not your uterus, it’s not your protocol, it’s not even the moon phase. It’s that you’ve been trained to trust data over your divine knowing, and it’s time to come back home to yourself.
Mabel’s journey through IVF heartbreak led her not to the end, but to the beginning of her own awakening. And yours can too. This episode walks you through a powerful, active meditation to shift the stuck frequencies that are jamming your inner signal. We’re talking fear, guilt, shame, grief—the whole unglamorous gang—and helping you finally feel them so you can alchemize them.
Get cozy or take this on a walk and let this practice unlock the clarity that’s been inside you all along. Ready to stop chasing and start trusting? Then press play.
"I do not lose the dream, I alchemize it."
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why tuning into intuition is more powerful than another supplement
02:50 – The moment Mabel ignored her inner knowing and hit her breaking point
04:44 – The step-by-step frequency practice to unblock intuition
06:13 – Where emotions get stuck in the body and what they might look like
12:48 – Honoring your frequency and shifting stuck emotions
15:42 – Anchoring into love, creativity, and the frequency of motherhood
"Your womb holds unexpressed potential. Stop silencing her with spreadsheets and fear."
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-fertility-clarity-you-ve-been-ignoring-hint-it-s-not-another-protocol-during-ivf-infertility
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Apr 04, 2025
Friday Apr 04, 2025
How self-sabotage shows up in fertility journeys
The connection between fear of judgment and subconscious patterns
Why we suppress our truth without realizing it
How childhood experiences program our nervous system to stay “safe”
Fertility success as a byproduct of aligning with your authentic self
The importance of subconscious empowerment and emotional processing
How to break through ingrained patterns using Fertile Mind & DREAMS
Affirmations to rewire fear-based beliefs
Monica’s personal story of transformation from insecure to empowered
Fertility not being something you fix—because you're not broken
Motherhood as the ultimate mirror
Why radical responsibility & inner work are non-negotiables for conscious motherhood
Hello beautiful! Monica here—and ooooh baby, are we getting into the thick of it this week. You ever feel like you’ve become the main villain in your own fertility story? Like you’re standing at the edge of breakthrough-ville, but your subconscious is like, “Nope. Let’s binge Netflix and spiral instead.” Yep, that’s self-sabotage, and she’s a sneaky little gremlin with a crown.
In this episode, we’re diving into why you keep getting in your own way—even when you know better. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your subconscious is on full panic mode, terrified of being judged, rejected, or—gasp—seen. I unpack a real (and wildly relatable) conversation with a Finding Fertility community member who said, “Even when I know I’m doing it, I can’t stop sabotaging myself.” Cue the collective “ugh, SAME.”
We talk about the fears that drive these patterns, how they tie into your childhood, and why they absolutely have everything to do with your fertility—even if they seem unrelated. And I’m not just dishing theory here. You’ll get practical tools, soul-hitting affirmations, and even some sass about why getting pregnant isn’t the endgame—becoming the conscious version of you is.
So if you’ve ever filtered yourself in fear, stayed quiet to keep the peace, or talked yourself out of doing something your soul was screaming for—this one’s for you. Let’s crack open those protective shells, pour some love on your scared inner child, and rewire those crusty old stories. Because your body? She already knows what to do. Now it’s your job to stop getting in her way.
00:00 Welcome & intro
01:01 Why self-sabotage is more common than we think
02:30 Fear of judgment & the subconscious mind
04:18 Suppressing our truth without realizing it
05:13 Childhood programming & nervous system safety
06:11 What this has to do with fertility
07:39 Returning to your center—your “North Pole”
08:35 The role of subconscious empowerment in change
10:32 Tools to break self-sabotage: awareness & action
12:27 Affirmations to shift your self-beliefs
14:53 Self-sabotage is just a cry for safety
15:23 Monica’s personal story of transformation
16:47 Boosting cellular health = fertility magic
18:39 Tease for next week’s episode: The Distress of Intuition
19:38 Invitation for a breakthrough session
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-truth-about-self-sabotage-cellular-health-fertility-success-when-you-re-dealing-with-infertility
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 28, 2025
Friday Mar 28, 2025
“I don't care if it's voodoo, it's working.”
The power of using your voice on the fertility journey
How childhood wounds and people-pleasing patterns sabotage fertility
Gut health and its surprising connection to emotional suppression
Letting go of perfectionism and societal expectations
Radical responsibility and nervous system regulation
Understanding the energetic roots of fertility issues
The impact of SIBO and functional medicine protocols
The role of inner child healing and subconscious reprogramming
Challenges of navigating fertility with a partner not on the same page
Releasing limiting beliefs and stepping into trust and surrender
“If you don't feel safe, and you're in a state of fear, you're going to have cortisol overdrive.”
Hello, beautiful Monica here! And oh honey, buckle up, because today we’re diving into the emotional jungle gym that is your fertility journey. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about diet, supplements, and fancy med protocols. Sometimes, the real block is you not using your damn voice. Yep, we said it.
In this raw and revelatory episode, we sit down with a brave soul who has been through more fertility treatments than anyone should ever have to endure (we're talking double digits, people). But the real kicker? She hadn’t been speaking up—for her body, her emotions, her intuition. And let’s be real, when your husband is channeling all the Type A, competitive, masculine energy, it’s no surprise your inner child is quietly rocking in a corner whispering, “Please don’t fight.”
We talk about burping (yes, burping) and how it's somehow the digestive version of not using your voice—seriously, who knew your gut could get passive-aggressive too? We unravel people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the childhood moments that had you hustling for love and safety. Monica walks her guest through a transformational subconscious technique that had her feeling chills—in the best possible way. And just when you think you’ve heard it all, we go full metaphysical with past life patterns and inner child work. Because why not?
So if you’ve been quietly nodding along with society’s rules while screaming inside, this one’s your wake-up call. Spoiler: the more you people-please, the longer you stay in fertility hell. Let’s change that.
“You attract what you're vibing on.”
03:13 When you don’t use your voice, you’re not setting boundaries or following your intuition
05:39 Gut symptoms like burping linked to emotional suppression
07:04 Quitting a high-stress job and facing fears of disappointing a partner
10:23 Relationship shifts and fear of changing the status quo
13:37 Fertility treatments making things worse when gut health isn’t addressed
16:52 Having the courage to stand in your power—even if it feels like you need “balls” to do it
18:44 The ‘no’ phase of fertility and becoming radically selfish (in the best way)
21:38 Childhood rot, emotional inheritance, and the body’s reaction to unresolved trauma
24:31 The danger of outsourcing worthiness and the subtle art of not giving a f**k
26:52 Internalizing the need to be perfect and strong to keep the peace
28:58 Visualization and emotional flipping technique to rewire stored trauma
34:18 Whole brain integration and the chills-inducing release moment
39:23 Bringing a photo of your inner child into your healing journey
42:11 Choosing to step into the woman you were born to be, baby or no baby
45:02 Fertility Breakthrough Sessions: What they are, who they're for, and how to get one
“This is not evidence of your future, because you’re going to start moving differently now.”
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-burnout-to-fertility-breakthrough-the-real-reason-you-re-not-getting-pregnant
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 21, 2025
Friday Mar 21, 2025
"Your body innately knows how to do fertility—it’s just waiting for you to stop micromanaging."
Topics Discussed
"You can’t have and want at the same time."
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here to shake things up and throw a little radical honesty your way.
Ever feel like you’re trapped in the never-ending cycle of “trying” to get pregnant? Like your whole existence has somehow become wrapped up in charting, Googling, and second-guessing every decision? Well, buckle up, because we’re about to dive into why that’s a huge part of the problem.
This episode is all about the identity you’ve unknowingly taken on—the one who is always trying. And guess what? That identity might just be keeping you stuck. We’re talking about why your subconscious clings to this label, how hope (yes, even hope) can sometimes keep you in limbo, and why shifting from wanting to having is the secret sauce you didn’t know you needed.
I also get into the real reason your body might not be “playing along” with your fertility goals (spoiler: it’s not because it’s broken). It’s because stress and control are energy vampires, and your body needs to feel safe before it gives the green light to baby-making.
So if you’re ready to ditch the death grip on your journey, trust your body, and step into the energy of having, this episode is your permission slip to finally let go. Let’s do this!
Read Truth #6: The Identity of ‘The One Who’s Trying’ https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-identity-of-the-one-who-s-trying
01:30 – The inspiration for this episode: a perfectly timed post about letting go
02:53 – Why clinging to the “trying” identity could be keeping you in an endless loop
04:48 – The sneaky way your subconscious labels shape your reality (and how to shift it)
06:42 – You can’t have and want at the same time—how to embody trust instead
07:48 – Why white-knuckling your way through this journey is an energy drain
08:44 – The magic in the mundane: shifting from lack to joy in everyday life
09:37 – Hope isn’t the problem…until it is. When hope keeps you stuck instead of moving forward
11:33 – The fear that keeps you gripping control: If I let go, am I giving up? (Spoiler: nope)
12:48 – How your body actually thrives when you stop stressing over every little detail
14:15 – Why quick fixes don’t work & what to focus on instead
15:14 – A sneak peek at next week’s episode: a game-changing fertility breakthrough session!
"Hope is supposed to be a bridge, not a place where you set up camp and live forever."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilitySuccessTrustingBodyBreakingFreeInfertilityStruggle
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 14, 2025
Friday Mar 14, 2025
"The shift from chasing to trusting is the real work. It’s easy to stay in a loop of doing more research, more protocols, more control. But remember, the real magic is when you stop overcompensating and start trusting yourself."
"If you deep down don’t believe you deserve to become a mother, you’ll subconsciously create obstacles to prevent it."
Truth # 4: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-z2s2n-18073a4
Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today we’re diving into a mind-bending, slightly uncomfortable (but wildly important) topic—FEAR OF SUCCESS. Yep, you read that right. Not fear of failure. Fear of actually getting what you want.
Sounds crazy, right? I mean, isn’t the whole point of this journey to become pregnant? But let’s be real—your brain has been so busy obsessing over the struggle, the next supplement, the next protocol, the next thing—that the idea of finally crossing the finish line is, well… TERRIFYING. Because what happens when you’re no longer the one “trying”? What happens when you do get pregnant?
Your subconscious is sneaky like that. It convinces you that staying in the hamster wheel of research and control is saferthan stepping into the unknown of success. Because success means transformation. It means surrender. And let’s be honest—Type-A, overachieving, Google-addicted Mabel is not a fan of surrender.
In this episode, Monique is rolling her eyes at Mabel’s overthinking, Monica is here to gently guide the way, and YOU are going to uncover whether fear of success is secretly sabotaging your journey. You’ll also get three game-changing questions to sit with (preferably under a tree, because let’s add some nature to the healing process, shall we?).
So, if you’ve been stuck in doing instead of trusting, if pregnancy feels just as scary as infertility, or if your brain has ever whispered “What if I mess this up?”—this episode is your wake-up call. Let’s break the cycle and step into the version of you who is ready to receive.
"For so long, you have been the woman who’s trying. That’s who you are. That’s how you relate to yourself, your partner, your doctors. The idea of not being her anymore? That can feel like a loss—even though it’s what you want more than anything."
00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility! Let’s talk about the sneaky fear of success.
01:33 – Why getting pregnant might feel scarier than failing (subconscious sabotage 101)
02:56 – “What if I don’t deserve this?” How unworthiness keeps you stuck
04:26 – The real reason you can’t stop doing (and why sitting under a tree might help)
06:23 – Mabel’s lesson on repeating the same old patterns in fertility
07:19 – The 3 questions you need to ask yourself today
08:34 – If you stop chasing and start trusting… who even are you?
10:00 – The science behind stress in pregnancy (aka, get that cortisol down NOW)
11:29 – Letting go of the identity of the “woman who’s trying”
12:56 – How to shift into the version of you that’s ready to receive
"The magic is in the mundane. When you feel that anxiety bubbling up, the real work is sitting in the uncomfortableness of not doing."
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-chasing-to-fertile-trusting-the-real-mindset-shift-for-fertility-success
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Mar 07, 2025
Friday Mar 07, 2025
"If you're still feeling stuck, if you're still feeling there's something more, it's because you're not going inward enough."
"The answer is within, the answer is always within."
Hello, beautiful—the voice of Monica is here to shake up your fertility mindset once again. If you’re still on the never-ending hamster wheel of “doing all the things” but still feel like you’re getting nowhere, buckle up because today’s episode is your reality check. We’re talking about something that might make your Type A tendencies twitch—slowing down. Yep, the thing that feels impossible but is actually the secret sauce to unlocking your fertility and overall well-being.
Rebecca Rankin is back, and we’re diving deep into why ignoring your body’s signals, overriding your natural rhythms, and stuffing your schedule with all the “fertility must-dos” is actually working against you. We’re talking about real radical honesty—the kind that makes you question your midnight Googling sessions and your obsession with finding the next best supplement. Spoiler alert: the answer isn’t out there. It’s in you. Always has been.
We also get into the not-so-sexy but oh-so-important truth about consistency, how your hormones affect EVERYTHING (yes, even that sudden urge to question your entire existence while doing the dishes), and why menopause might actually be your power era instead of something to dread. Plus, we tackle the biggest lie in the fertility world: the idea that once you “fix” your health, life will be smooth sailing forever. Newsflash—it’s a lifelong journey, but one you actually have control over.
So, if you’re ready to ditch the frantic energy and actually start aligning with your body’s wisdom, this episode is for you. Let’s go.
"Slowing down enough to listen to yourself is the most radical act of self-care you can do."
00:37 – The power of radical responsibility and self-trust in fertility
01:17 – Why the inner work feels “slow” but is actually the fastest way to transformation
02:32 – The hard truth about healing: Why modalities don’t work if you avoid the real work
03:53 – How past traumas and subconscious programming affect your nervous system
04:51 – The lost art of slowing down: Why we ignore our intuition
06:19 – Practitioners as mirrors, not saviors—how to know when to trust yourself
07:48 – Are you living on autopilot? Why you need to take back control
09:14 – The silent work your body does for you—hormones, gut health & energy
10:36 – Consistency over perfection: The secret to long-term healing
11:34 – The domino effect of small daily changes on your health & mindset
13:30 – How society has conditioned women to ignore their own needs
16:21 – The rising infertility crisis: What sperm health tells us about modern health
17:19 – Why birth control masks issues instead of fixing them
19:42 – Menopause: The era of not giving a f*** and stepping into your power
21:30 – The body’s signals don’t lie: How to listen and respond to your own needs
22:56 – Can you sit with yourself? Why true transformation happens in stillness
23:50 – The radical idea of just being with yourself—no distractions, no numbing
24:47 – Final thoughts: The one small action you can take today to shift your energy
"You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to show up for yourself every single day."
Connect with Rebecca Rankin:
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-radical-honesty-can-transform-your-mindset-fertility-journey-with-rebecca-rankin-part-2
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Feb 28, 2025
Friday Feb 28, 2025
"We are the creators, and when we’re in complete flow with ourselves, the power is undeniable."
"We’re not meant to be perpetually productive. Our power is in the ebb and flow."
Hello, beautiful.! Monica here, back in your ears, and today, we’re talking about something that might just shake up everything you’ve been taught about success, productivity, and even your own body. Buckle up.
Here’s the thing—women have been lied to. For centuries. We’ve been told to push harder, do more, and operate like mini-men in a world that rewards burnout. But what if the key to feeling your best, being your most creative, and even boosting fertility isn’t in doing more, but in doing differently?
Today, I’m joined by the incredible Rebecca Rankin, who’s here to drop truth bombs about cyclical living—aka, why your hormones are actually your superpower (if you stop fighting them). We’re talking about why you feel like an unstoppable queen one week and a drained zombie the next, why ignoring these shifts wrecks your health, and how simple awareness can change the game.
Spoiler alert: If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing "everything right" but still not seeing results, this episode is your wake-up call. Get ready to stop playing chauffeur to everyone else’s needs and start reclaiming your rhythm, your energy, and your damn life.
"Radical responsibility means calling out the ways we sabotage ourselves—yes, even while washing the dishes."
00:37 – Understanding how your body is actually working FOR you, not against you
00:51 – Quick disclaimer: I don’t diagnose, prescribe, or hand you a magic fertility pill
01:18 – Guided meditation: A quick practice to center yourself in the present moment
06:34 – Rebecca’s journey: From architecture to yoga to women’s wellness
09:27 – The wake-up call moment: When you realize your body has been screaming for attention
12:21 – How women are taught to ignore their own cycles & why that’s a huge mistake
16:40 – The truth about hustle culture: Why women need a different approach
18:07 – Why men and women’s energy cycles are fundamentally different
19:31 – The fertility trap: When "doing all the things" is actually making it worse
22:53 – Understanding your menstrual cycle as a guide for energy, productivity & intuition
24:42 – Why "just think happy thoughts" isn’t enough (and what actually works)
28:38 – The most powerful first step: Start tracking your cycle & mood patterns
29:35 – Monica’s realization: All the spiritual work in the world won’t fix subconscious programming
30:49 – Final thoughts: Unpacking, unlearning, and stepping into your power
"Your hormones are your mystical superpower—if you stop trying to override them."
Connect with Rebecca Rankin:
Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/ditch-the-hustle-why-women-thrive-when-they-honor-their-natural-rhythms-with-rebecca-rankin-part-1
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
🍍Friday Feb 21, 2025
Friday Feb 21, 2025
"You can have 500 suitcases lined up full of crap that isn’t yours or just one or two you don’t even realize you’re carrying."
Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
READ Chapter 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-4-mabel-s-buried-emotional-baggage-the-silent-stories-that-shape-our-lives
"Maybe your parents just didn’t want to deal with your emotions because they were raised by the silent generations and emotions weren’t even a thing."
Hello, Beautiful—Monica here, back again with a hard-hitting, no-nonsense dive into your emotional baggage. (Yes, we’re going there today.)
We’re talking about those neatly packed, possibly designer-labeled suitcases of emotions you’ve been dragging around for decades—some that aren’t even yours. Fun, right? Maybe you’ve done all the ‘right’ things—cleaned up your diet, taken the right supplements, maybe even dabbled in energy work—but somehow, you’re still stuck. Here’s a not-so-fun fact: You can’t out-salad your subconscious beliefs.
If your nervous system is still holding onto past emotional wounds, it doesn’t matter how many green juices you chug or how ‘clean’ your diet is—your body is still living in an old story. So today, we’re unpacking those dusty, forgotten emotional wounds that are silently running the show.
We’ll also talk about the oh-so-familiar conditioning many of us got growing up. You know, the "big girls don’t cry,""stop being so sensitive," and "it’s not that big of a deal" mantras that taught us to shove our emotions down like last season’s trends. But here’s the thing—what you suppress doesn’t disappear; it festers, manifests in sneaky ways (hello, chronic gut issues and hormonal chaos), and keeps you stuck in a loop.
And because I love to make things practical, I’m giving you a few journal prompts to help you dig deep, a breakdown of how your beliefs shape your reality, and the inside scoop on whole-brain states (aka how to trick your brain into rewiring old beliefs).
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why you’re still stuck despite doing all the things, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it.
"I wasn’t even really allowed to express my emotions—Wendy the Whiner wasn’t invited, and big girls don’t cry."
03:01 – The truth about buried emotional baggage
04:57 – How subconscious beliefs control your fertility
06:20 – Emotional suppression: the silent fertility killer
08:07 – The physical symptoms of unresolved emotions
10:00 – That moment when you realize your dad’s BS is why you can’t tolerate nightshades
12:46 – How childhood conditioning still affects you today
14:33 – The journal prompts that will change your life
19:14 – What did you need as a child that you never got?
21:36 – The story you’re telling yourself about your body
23:55 – Why functional medicine alone isn’t the whole answer
26:13 – Whole-brain state: the cheat code to subconscious rewiring
30:56 – What happens when the fight is over? (Spoiler: identity crisis)
32:41 – Your challenge for the week—time to release what’s holding you back
"You can’t heal what you’re unwilling to look at."
I’ve got three journal prompts to get you started. Then, don’t forget to access the D.R.E.A.M.S. course for more in-depth support for each area:
1️⃣ "What did I need as a child that I never got?"
What emotions did I have to suppress?
How did I learn to cope?
How is this showing up in my life now?
📌 [Refer to: Energetics—Dealing with the Past (Trauma)]
2️⃣ "If I let myself be really, truly angry, what would I say?"
No editing. No guilt. Just raw, unfiltered emotion.
Who am I angry at? Myself? Someone else? Life?
What have I been swallowing down for years?
📌 [Refer to: Energetics—How to Release Anger and Fear]
3️⃣ "What’s the story I’ve been telling myself about my body, my worth, and my ability to become a mom?"
Where did this story start?
Whose voice does it sound like?
What happens if I let that story go?
📌 [Refer to: Mindset—The Importance of Thinking & Speaking in a More Positive Way]
I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.
ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing
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Full Transcript on the Blog: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf
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🍍Friday Feb 14, 2025
Friday Feb 14, 2025
The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVF
"If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything."
"Busyness isn’t always about progress. Sometimes it’s just a fancy disguise for avoidance."
Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d
Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a
Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You’re the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let’s be real for a second—how’s that working out for you?
Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she’ll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way?
Today, we’re diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don’t worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don’t want to hear but absolutely need to).
And because I love making things super practical, I’m giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That’s the point.
So grab your tea (or let’s be real, your third cup of coffee), and let’s get into it.
"If you don’t give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you."
00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast
00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey
00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant
00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses
01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller?
01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness
07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let’s talk about it
07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we’ve all been there)
08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything?
10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling
11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility
12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing
14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body
17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let’s get real)
19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action
21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you’ve been living
23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities
25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness
26:41 - Monique’s take: Stuffing down emotions isn’t a long-term strategy
27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions
28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice)
29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week’s deep dive into emotional baggage
"Repressed feelings don’t stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly."
Full Transcript on the Blog:
https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-block-to-fertility-success-overcoming-suppressed-emotions-during-infertility-ivf
🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10
🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:
Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon
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