How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF

Overthinking, Worry & Fear: How Mabel Found Peace in Her Thoughts: 

Topics Discussed

• The difference between rumination and overworrying and how they impact fertility
• Tools to interrupt overthinking patterns and create new neural pathways
• The illusion of control and why overthinking doesn’t create solutions
• Why your age isn’t the true fertility villain—cellular health matters more
• The importance of slowing down and creating space for healing
• How consistent, simple practices can rewire decades of ingrained thought patterns
• Mabel and Monique’s late-night showdown over age anxiety and overthinking

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Second Top Quote
"Stop fighting time and start working with it."

Hello, beautiful—Monica here, your guide in uncovering what really matters on your fertility journey. In this episode, we dive into the chaotic storm that is overthinking—you know, that exhausting mental loop where you rehearse every worst-case scenario like you’re auditioning for an Oscar. Spoiler: your mind doesn't actually get a trophy for all that drama.

With the help of my unapologetically sassy alter-ego Monique (yes, she’s back and fiercer than ever) and my ever-panicked former self, Mabel, we unpack the evil twins of rumination and overworrying. Mabel’s spinning out over her age again, convinced the universe slapped an expiration date on her forehead. But don’t worry—Monique’s got her metaphorical megaphone and some hard truths to share.

This episode isn’t about magic fixes or fairy dust; it’s about showing up for yourself in those unglamorous, mundane moments. We’re talking about the simple, powerful shift of saying, “We don’t live here anymore” when your brain starts building castles out of what-ifs. And guess what? If you’re obsessing over the clock ticking, Monique has some spicy words for you—because your age isn’t the real villain here. It’s time to ditch the chaos, embrace clarity, and trust your body’s ability to work with you, not against you.

Grab your tea, your notebook, or just a cozy spot to listen—you don’t want to miss this one. And if you catch yourself spiraling into overthinking after this? Well, you’ll know exactly what to say: “Babe, we don’t live here anymore.”

"Overthinking doesn’t create control—it creates chaos."

Timestamps
00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast
00:10 - Introduction to the six essential steps for your fertility journey
00:37 - Radical responsibility: Trusting your body and creating transformation
01:19 - A grounding meditation to release overthinking
03:00 - Visualization: Letting the river carry away your thoughts
06:26 - Affirmation for calm energy and self-trust
07:39 - Why overthinking feels safe but creates chaos
08:08 - Mabel and Monique’s showdown: Overthinking at midnight
13:44 - The difference between rumination and overworrying
15:10 - Tools to interrupt rumination and over worrying
18:19 - Monica’s personal journey with overthinking and consistency
20:36 - The addiction to control and how it keeps you stuck
21:35 - Preview of next week’s episode: Slowing down and creating space for healing

"Slowing down and sitting with your feelings is where true healing begins."

ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.